<p>Im a girl from a small arkansas town who now lives in memphis for college. Ive always had a hard time making friends, and now its even harder at this huge school. My feelings of loneliness are getting worse and worse, and now its getting almost unmanagable.
Anybody got any advice? Ive tried everything, including clubs but i just cant force myself to talk to people anymore, i get too anxious. And the worst part is, there is no one to talk to.</p>
<p>Rush a sorority.</p>
<p>I am not the type of girl that could join a sorority, lol. Im not overly strange, but im as strange as you could expect a japanese/graphic design student to be. I like my liprings and tattoos a little too much</p>
<p>^ Honestly, request to live in a suite (if possible). If not, try it next year. Great way to make really good friends (or enemies, but most likely friends).</p>
<p>If you can’t control your anxiousness when you try to force yourself to talk to people, you probably need to get some help.</p>
<p>Believe it or not, there’s actually such a thing as Social Anxiety Disorder.</p>
<p>I live in the best dorm on campus and i have a roomie… and i know my dad has social anxiety but ive never had the guts to tell a doctor, and when i do tehy say its a phase and will get better… but it never has.
How do you get a doctor to take you seriously?</p>
<p>Join one of those cultural clubs. I’m sure you can relate a few things with other Asians.</p>
<p>Just a small town girl…</p>
<p>yeah that’s what came to mind when I read the first sentence.</p>
<p>“my sorority”</p>
<p>Until I read that, I was completely under the impression that you were a guy.</p>
<p>make friends in class or something its rlly not that hard to talk to ppl and make friends</p>
<p>Are you going to the U of M or Rhodes? If it’s the U of M, that’s completely understandable. U of Memphis is a commuter school, and most of the people there tend to stick with people from high school, which isn’t what I wanted (I’m from Memphis). I may be able to help you meet some people.</p>
<p>Talk to your school’s Health Advisor about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Social Anxiety. You just have to put your irrational thoughts put into perspective. No one is constantly grading you as you might think. Your thoughts are just irrational and one with social phobia just has to realize that it’s okay to make mistakes and that doing so is normal. No one will remember what you did wrong in the future and wouldn’t care anyways. People want to get to know you. They have no intention to prove that you are inferior.</p>
<p>There may be more understanding sororities there, but not here. Plus i dont have the time or money for that commitment. The sorority girls on my floor are always busy. And yeah, its the UofM. I love the school and my classes are great, but theres just too many people. Thanks for all your advice.</p>
<p>try to sit down next to someone who is sitting alone and perhaps ask them a question you might have about the class to break the ice a little!</p>
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<p>“There are sororities for everyone”</p>
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