<p>my bfriend is leaving for college and although we are planning on staying a couple and seeing each other on the weekends as often as possible, although I wonder how realistic that is. We have been dating a year and a half and I have one more year of high school but I am not interested in going to the college he's going to. After reading some of the other recent posts about "hooking up" and the task of finding a boyfriend or girlfriend at school, not to mention the temptations available to 'mess around', I am probably naive to hope he will stay true. Do you think he will tell me before he goes out with someone or at least that he is thinking about it or will he just do it and tell me about it later? Anybody want to share how they are handling this same situation?</p>
<p>it depends on the type of guy, if you dated seriously, then he would probably tell you before doing so. however it depends on your relationship also. i broke up with my boyfriend before he left for college and it didn't end very well. i started dating another guy a month later but told him afterwards. i handled that situation in the way i saw fit (ex-bf was controlling/manipulative), so im sure your boyfriend will do the same.</p>
<p>Nobody here can really answer that for you - only you know your boyfriend and the type of person he is. But I think you should voice your concerns.</p>
<p>By the way, I think many of the posts on this forum, as well as the expectations of people IRL going into college, is that everyone is single, hooks up, and by senior year settles into a relationship. This seems to be the mold we're all expected to follow: break up with your high school gf/bf, this is college! But there are plenty of people who try to make it work, and some do succeed. It depends a lot on the couple.</p>
<p>If you've both decided to give it a shot, I think that says a lot about your boyfriend. Clearly he cares about you and wants to make it work. To me that suggests he values you and your feelings enough that he'd probably tell you if something happened.</p>
<p>it could always play the nice guy and be hooking up behind your back at college. There is no way for you to know. if you question it in the beginning there is not enough trust to make it last.</p>
<p>my cousin is a year older than his girlfriend, and they broke up before he went away to college (in southern california). they both hooked up with other people, but during christmas break, they decided that they would rather be together. and they have been ever since.
shes going to school in washington this year, and they do plan on staying together but they completely know that a million things could happen.</p>
<p>so just talk to him. thats the best you can really do.</p>