friends and colleges

<p>So, I'm going to UNC and my two best friends are going to the University of Alabama together. Now, these two schools are nine hours away. How is everyone dealing with stuff like this? I'm pretty much a mess. It's just that I feel like they're going to become even closer and I'm just going to be outsider by the time summer rolls around. It's pretty depressing.</p>

<p>Not to be offensive or anything, but usually best friends are made in college. You will probably forget your friends from high school. So don't worry about it and prepare for the most important social phase of your life!</p>

<p>welcome the opportunity to spread your wings a little. i am proud of you for having the courage to go for it on your own. think about this...they may find it harder to get along with the pressures of college--both academically and socially. high school friends often try to explore new opportunities, and lots of things can go wrong when they go off to school together. </p>

<p>enjoy your time with your friends right now....don't borry trouble from tomorrow....what you are worrying about might never happen, so just enjoy the moments and applaud yourself on your courage to go to school on your own.</p>

<p>I'm actually sort of hoping to not have to spend much time with current friends... I want to completely move on when I get to college.</p>

<p>They may not necessarily get closer. College is a time to explore who you are, and their interests might diverge. Or, they might cling to each other too much and end up growing more distant when they realize that what was good for them in high school isn't necessarily good for college.</p>

<p>Chances are, you'll make a bunch of new friends and grow close to them. And you'll realize that there's no point to being jealous. You may even appreciate the fact that you're going to a school so far away from the both of them because you get to start over completely.</p>

<p>I think it's very likely that your friendship with your two best friends will mellow out, but I also think you'll make form new friendships that make up for that.</p>

<p>I agree with what everyone else has said- college is a time to grow and diversify. By no means should you completely forget about your old friends, but do take advantage of the opportunity to meet new people. (That's the reason why my best friend and I are purposefully NOT going to be roommates if we both get into our top choice college.)</p>

<p>I'm only a sophomore in HS but I have not seen my dad or his side of the family since I was 6 or my best friend since I was 11. I've been to 10 different schools, lived in 30 different houses, probably atleast 15 different cities and 3 different states. Yea, I'm used to seperation. But in any event, here is my advice:</p>

<p>Get a PO box when you go to your school. Give everyone you're missing your e-mail address, PO BOX, and cell # if you have one. If not, buy a few phone cards for long distance calling. Do not be ashamed to take pictures of you or where you are (this might sound weird, but if you're the type that does not like getting your picture taken, trust me, your friends will probably want to see a photo of you once in a while).</p>

<p>And do not let your friends down when it comes to contactinv them on a regular basis. </p>

<p>Hope this helps.</p>

<p>im in a similar situation. all of my closest friends are staying in california and im going to new york.</p>

<p>its tough, because these have been my best friends for years. they will all be relatively close, and i will be hours away. but it really helps me to think that if they really are my best friends, theyll still be, no matter where we are.</p>

<p>and i agree about keeping in contact. get a facebook [im actually really serious], share your email address, and actually really stay in contact. it may be hard sometimes because college is so busy, but itll be worth it. and make an effort to visit each other when you can.</p>

<p>and then when you do see each other..you will have even more stories to share!</p>