<p>Has anyone ever had a friend do something utterly stupid to them? </p>
<p>I recently received a likely letter from an Ivy and was very excited. A week later, I find out that my friend took it upon himself to email and tell another school that I applied to (and actually been accepted to) that I would not be attending their school because I had gotten into the Ivy. I was contacted by admissions to help clear the situation up. I was really upset because I really like the non-Ivy school, would be happy there and will likely happily attend if the Ivy doesn't work out financially. </p>
<p>I thought that it was VERY rude of my friend to email an admissions office on my behalf like that. When I asked him about it, he said that he didn't know why he did it and wouldn't give me a reason. I still don't know his motivation. He IS applying to this school too (he missed the priority deadline by a month and half though) but you certainly don't get a leg up in admissions by showing yourself to be a bad friend.</p>
<p>Meugenio, what didn't make sense? Was my narrative screwed up or was it my friend's actions?</p>
<p>Anyway, Duper, I realize that what he did was wrong. It also hurt me in that I'm still up for an additional scholarship at the school that he emailed and I'm worried that his actions may jeopardize me getting the scholarship. It really makes me angry that he assumed that just because I'm LIKELY to get into an Ivy that I'd automatically reject every other school then assuming that it was his duty to notify schools on my behalf.</p>
<p>Did your friend apply to the school that he called? He may be trying to clear up a spot for himself: Lord knows if I knew that my friends who applying to my top choice were accepted to other schools, the temptation to do something like that would be rather strong.</p>
<p>You are more than kind to say your "friend" was rude .. I think most people would call it something else.</p>
<p>I can't think of a single, well intended reason why someone would do that. Honestly, can you? It reeks of something else! This is not a friend, stay clear and don't share anymore info with him.</p>
<p>I'd talk to him about it again and try to see if you can work things out. It's possible he's jealous you got into an Ivy and did what he did in a moment of stupid anger. I can't really think of another reason he'd do it. But I'd definitely try to bring this to a conclusion if you want to remain friends.</p>
<p>Yes, he did apply to that school. But he missed the priority deadline by 6 weeks, which means that his chances of getting in are slim anyway at this point. I also assume that most people would be able to resist the temptation to sabotage a friend :)</p>
<p>And VickyDee, I don't intend to share anything further with him. The irony of this whole thing is that I recommended this school to him highly and then for him to turn around and do this......I feel somewhat betrayed.</p>
<p>Years ago, a friend of mine refused to tell us where she got into until after graduation. We all thought she was a prick, but I can see the wisdom in her action now.</p>
<p>If friend applying to the school he/she emailed, its pure sabotage. You don't want a friend like this. Hell, I would even write a letter back to the school explaining the situation in full.</p>
<p>If friend not applying to the school he/she emailed, its jealousy. Still, a bad friend.</p>
<p>My response to admissions when I was asked about it was that I still consider their school a great option and my Ivy acceptance (or likely acceptance) doesn't change that. I didn't want to resort to his level and sabotage him.</p>
<p>From a parent point of view - it sounds like your friend was trying to sabotage you in the hopes of opening up a spot for himself. Very bizarre thing to do - normally it would not even cross anyones mind to do such a thing. He has probably sabotaged himself.</p>
<p>I agree with everyone that he's proven that he's not your friend and that his intentions were to sabotage you. There could be no other reason.</p>
<p>From your OP it's clear the person admitted to doing it, but couldn't/wouldn't explain why.</p>
<p>But how did you determine it was him? Did the school actually tell you the name of the person who emailed them? Or was it anonymous and you figured it was him and confronted him?</p>
<p>I figured that it was him so I asked him about it. He's the only other person from my school applying to this school so it was obvious. He admitted to it and actually showed me the email that he sent admissions in which he told them that I wasn't going to their school. He told me that it felt like the right thing to do and he felt that it wouldn't do any harm because it's "the truth." He couldn't tell me WHY he did it and why it was right, he said that he didn't know WHY he did it only that it felt right at the time.</p>
<p>So did he send the email as himself, or was he posing as you?</p>
<p>If he was openly emailing the school as himself, telling them you weren't going to attend, I would say that it's highly unlikely the school would take it out on you. I think they probably read it and were baffled as to why someone else would be accepting/denying a school's admission for a "friend". ? If nothing else, it screwed his chances with them even more so.</p>