<p>I'm going to the University of Texas, and I was wondering if it was hard to make new friends in college. Is it a lot different than high school? Is the transition hard to take?</p>
<p>College is what you make of it. You have to put yourself out there, friends don’t come flocking at you like the movies. In some ways I feel like I’m still in high school because I stayed in state and about 100 of the kids from my high school go to my college, and surprisingly I still run into them…</p>
<p>College is definitely different from high school the chief reason being that (presumably) you will be living in a dorm with other students rather than at home. I would assume that one would find it difficult to make friends without putting in any effort to be social but on the other hand the vast majority of people become friends with the “neighbours” rather quickly.</p>
<p>I would say put yourself out there. That you do have to do. However, people like to make it seem like it’s so easy. You need to clique up your first week. If you don’t, go luck finding friends. College social life still has that High School clique mentality. </p>
<p>And you can join clubs all you want, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll make friends. </p>
<p>Cliques are hard to break into after they’ve been established. It’s like trying to get a ring that is hardened in cement. It’s just not going to happen.</p>
<p>i agree with sadcollegestud.</p>
<p>i fell into the same trap expecting it to be so easy (especially living in a dorm). however, it’s not like people change in college. people dont go from cliques to all of a sudden being friends with everyone. </p>
<p>if you live in a dorm, try to force your way into people’s rooms to meet them. i dont mean literally break in, but if a door is open and you dont see anyone and its the first few days, go in and find them. that way, you can hopefully be on good terms with them from the start and it will lead to friendship</p>
<p>However if you don’t find an instant group of friends or a clique your first few days, assuming you have any semblance of social skills, you will find more. Yes it does involve branching out and taking the initiative to say hello to people and stay connected to them, but you can meet people in your classes very easily. Another option is joining a fraternity or sorority. </p>
<p>I never really hung out with anyone in my dorm beyond the first week or so, I actually just moved dorms to be closer to my friends. All you really need to do is meet one person who is well connected and become close with them, and then you will meet all their friends, and there you go.</p>
<p>Don’t listen to those who say you have to have a clique in the first few days or you’re screwed. In the first few days everyone is desperate for friendship and people might approach you to be friends. Later on people have friends and aren’t as desperate so they aren’t throwing themselves at you, so some people who are too awkward to take the initiative say that it’s completely impossible. I didn’t meet my friends until several weeks into the semester and I’m constantly making new ones. That’s just the nature of college assuming you are being social and meeting people.</p>