<p>i just moved from another town for 9th grade. school started last wednesday. i talk to many people already, but i don't really have anyone that i could consider a "friend." what should i do to make closer relationships with people? i had many friends at my old school, but everyone seems so cliquey here! my high school is made up of two middle schools & they have their own cliques among themselves! & the two schools barely talk to each other unless they know each other from sports or something. i'm really worried that i won't make any good friends because i feel so lost right now. any advice would be appreciated...thanks. ;]</p>
<p>Don't let the cliques define you, for starters. If you have to be around them to make friends do it, but don't be someone your not. No one likes a poser.</p>
<p>I know that deciphering cliques can be very difficult if you are immersed into a new school. I would just try and find one of two people with similar interests to you. Then, find their clique(s) and see if you fit in.</p>
<p>Don't be a poser though. that's no good.</p>
<p>I went through an entire year in a school that was clique-y.</p>
<p>In all that time, I never made one single friend; maybe 3-4 people I could talk to, but it was clear that I wasn't really all that welcome.</p>
<p>You don't have to let cliqueyness stop you from making friends...in every school, no matter how cliquish, there are those few really cool people who transcend those invisble borders and hang out with everyone. Just be really friendly, and once you find people who you might consider friends, ask them to hang out, sit with them. Friendships will develop naturally if you spend a lot of time just hanging out.</p>
<p>I agree with princessbell. I go to a pretty clique-ish school, but I tend to just be friendly to everybody in my classes and I find that I have made a very diverse set of friends/acquaintances. Chances are, by simply going to school everyday, you are going to be constantly placed in social environments. From there, just make friends with the people on your bus, the people who sit next to you in classes, the people who participate in the same activities as you and so on. Relax, and don't force it. Focus that energy on what counts, studying real hard.</p>
<p>I moved to a new school when I was starting 8th grade, so I kinda know what its like. I met my first friend who sat next to me in homeroom, and I made the first move by saying hi and asking her what her schedule was. We found out we had a lot of the same classes and became pretty close, and still are to this day. If you meet just one person, they can introduce you to their whole friends circle where you can meet more. Then in high school, I had the same problem because many of my friends from 8th grade were in different classes and lunches than I was. But starting with the fall preseason I had made the volleyball team where I was once again open to so many new people. I shortly joined the newspaper after that and once again met even more people. Just being outgoing and not waiting around for someone to make the first move will really make a difference.</p>
<p>I hope this helps and if it doesn't, this all takes some time. Even in 8th grade when I knew some people, it took until around February for me to truly call them my friends and know that I had their back and they had mine, so don't worry. In the meantime join some clubs you think you'd like and take advantage of this new school!</p>
<p>Mind you, my situation was out of the ordinary. At the beginning of the year I was an emotional basketcase and didn't want anything to do with most people. And the fact that quite a few people specifically made fun of my situation didn't bode well for me liking the school.</p>
<p>All I can say is try to go in with a positive attitude.</p>
<p>Its okay, I transfered in high school twice. Every schools has their good and bad points. I know this sounds cliche but seriously, join activities and be nice to your peers. Eventually they will come around. </p>
<p>The thing is; everyone is exiting out of middle school and into this new world of high school. That age is HARD! Hormones, social scene and stuff. Just let it unwind and it will be less cliquey, still bad but people mellow with age.</p>
<p>Sometimes it takes a while to click with others, just enjoy your friends and they will turn into better ones. If you don't click, its okay. There are people just like you. Promise.</p>
<p>My best advice, which I guess is a sub-category of being outgoing, is try to be funny, if possible. Going into high school I had very few people I'd call friends, but just kinda being crazy and , dare I say outrageous sometimes, really helped me to interact with people I didn't know. Example: now as a junior people, most teachers even, know me as JC Smooth.</p>
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<p>The school where I had problems wasn't like this.
I was a sophomore, so nix the whole adjusting bit.
And the school connected to the middle school, so it's not as if it was a real transition anyway.</p>
<p>i moved to another school during my sophomore year. it sucked, i left behind all my friends and here i am at this clique-y school with barely any real friends. so just realy be yourself and put yourself out there.</p>