Friends -> Relationship -> Friend -> Enemy -> Friend -> Relationship again?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>So here’s the situation: I met this one girl during the very beginning of my junior year and we both talked a lot in class but didn’t really pursue each other that much outside of school. During the second semester of junior year though, I got texting on my phone and so we both started talking A LOT outside of school in addition to talking in school. Two months later, I could tell that we were pretty much into each other because we chatted/talked to one another late into the morning and she’d sleep on my shoulder in front of everyone and all that good stuff. And so I asked her out… she obviously said yes. </p>

<p>But here’s where my story changed: Two weeks after we got together, her mom (who is very conservative) found out about the two of us and she started pressuring her. That caused my girlfriend to mentally break apart and she ended up “officially” breaking up with me, even though she told me that she still loved me. We stuck together for another month and a half in an “unofficial” relationship because we knew that we both loved each other and things seemed to be just fine. Unfortunately, she completely broke up with me at the end of junior year saying that she didn’t feel mature enough to be in a relationship with me anymore… and she told me that she didn’t want a guy in her life AT ALL (aka no marriage, etc.). I was completely heartbroken and stayed with her as friends for a month into the summer. </p>

<p>But then I mentally broke apart due to family problems and said something to her which caused her to stop talking to me completely… she even blocked me on Gmail/Facebook and a lot of silent drama went on between us. </p>

<p>Fast forward to the end of 2011 (we’re seniors now)… she came back to me and told me that she wanted to be friends with me again and we’ve been talking to each other a lot again ever since. The thing is, I still love her but I don’t know if I still have a chance of being her significant other again. I definitely hurt her over the summer (although I didn’t mean to do it), but we’re back to being very close friends again. </p>

<p>Do you guys think that I still have a chance of being with her again? I know it’s the end of senior year almost, but we both want to go to the same college and I’m confident that we’ll both get in. She also told me that her “perspective” on life changed over Christmas Break after she went out of the country for a few weeks. Does this signify anything? Is it possible that she still might want me back? Thanks for reading this, any advice is appreciated. :)</p>

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<p>I think you should be straightforward with your feelings. You two have gone through a lot together and share an intimate openness I’m sure you can’t find much place else. That said, you two really need to talk, and you shouldn’t feel awkward about asking her what you’re asking us. I’d definitely try to find out what the change in perspective is, that’s important.</p>

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<p>^yeah. What did you say to her? It seems to me like you two should get back together</p>

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<p>what i said to her wasn’t something that me or anyone else thought was offensive… i accidentally touched a nerve though and she thought that i was mocking her or something. that’s why she got mad at me. </p>

<p>there’s another thing: when we became friends again, she told me that she wanted to get out of high school on a good note and that she wanted to remember our relationship because it was very special to her and that she was very lucky to have me as her first boyfriend. i just don’t want to ask her this stuff because its only been a month and a half since we became friends again. thoughts? thanks for all the replies btw. :)</p>

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<p>Trust me man, senior year slips by really quickly. Have this conversation soon, so you can have things sorted out by the time you leave…If you two don’t get together, you can begin moving on and relax for the next semester. If you two do get back together, you can enjoy the time together and continue it into college (All things being equal, I assume you would since you’re going to the same place).</p>

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<p>It might not be wise entering college as a freshman with a girlfriend in the same college. From my perspective, it can make your social life limited because as a freshman, you don’t really know anyone and that is the time to meeting new people and begin forming your own group of friends. With a girlfriend by your side, it may turn some girls away from approaching you or she may influence who you hang out with and vice versa.</p>