<p>from my experiences, i wouldn’t. i ruined my friendship with my best guy friend over all this crap. at the time, i was really worried about it and i told him that i didn’t want to ruin our friendship. he assured me that it wouldn’t ruin our friendship, but it did. and it has just brought wayyy too much drama into my life. but i guess it’s different for different people</p>
<p>Go for it. It shouldn’t ruin anything it they’re also willing.</p>
<p>Wrap it before you tap it.</p>
<p>If you plan on keeping in touch at all after you go off to college, don’t do it. In all likelyhood she will get attatched, even if you don’t. When the feelings aren’t mutual, she will feel hurt and disgusted with herself. I agree with fuzzyfirebunny here, she probably has a crush on you and is hoping that by doing this you will develop feelings for her. </p>
<p>DON’T DO IT</p>
<p>But, the thing is that I was the one who suggested the relationship in the first place! If she had feelings towards me, I’m pretty positive that she would agreed to that instead of basically suggesting a friends with benefits type thing. I will admit this: I do have some feelings towards her. I just feel like I would rather still hold our friendship while engaging in certain acts then just be solely friends.</p>
<p>In all honesty, I’d say you seem to have thought this out and already made up your mind, you’re just looking for reassurance.
So go for it, have fun, if stuff starts going too far/gets dramatic or whatever, talk. Seriously, if people actually talked TO each other instead of ABOUT each other, I think the world would be like 100x happier.</p>
<p>The only thing I’d bring up with her before this all happens is, so what happens if one of you finds someone you want to be serious with (as in a different girlfriend/boyfriend) this summer? That’s where FWB can get sticky, so sort it out now before emotions come into play.</p>
<p>Most of the people giving advice seem to basing it on some hypothesis of what might happen, rather than their own personal experiences as a **** buddy. That would be extrapolation, which is completely invalid.</p>
<p>I’ve done FWB. I got attached. The end.</p>
<p>But it was still fun, and I don’t regret it. I like crying, anyway.</p>
<p>i suggest u to not do it…i mean, she might act detattached right now but later she will get emotional. Trust me, my best friend who happens to be a whore (and she accepts it) got emotional after sleepin w/ this guy whom she trusted and been friends with for yrs. normally she is very emotionally detattached when she does it w/ random dudes at a party, but when it is w/ some1 whom she knew for a long time, it’s different.</p>
<p>however, if u decide to do it just make sure ur friend takes birth control pills and u use a condom (in case of STD).</p>
<p>not a good idea. It never works out plus if you really enjoy her friendship then I wouldnt suggest it. Girls are emotional the cry during fictional chick flicks, or at least my girlfriend does so I would suggest leaving it alone.</p>
<p>I doubt she has an STD if she hasn’t had sex before.</p>
<p>Though, oral herpes, maybe.</p>
<p>pics or negs…</p>
<p>I agree, we need pics before we can give any further advice on the matter.</p>
<p>First off all, you have seen her tomjones. Secondly, what I am trying to say is that I do not mind if it somehow turns into a relationship, because I already do kind of have feelings for her. And she has not had oral sex before, so no STDs!!! Possible pics if people really want haha, I guess request or pm.</p>
<p>well as long as you don’t mind a relationship, i have no qualms.</p>
<p>I can’t believe there are 7 pages of this conversation. Less talking, more screwing!
(friends-with-benefits either ends awkwardly or turns into a relationship, in my experience. But seriously, you are overthinking this. It’s summer, do whatever seems fun)</p>
<p>Update: Yesterday, both of us basically confessed that we have feelings for each other besides just strictly sexual/friendship…but we have no idea what to do since there is like no time left in summer :(.</p>
<p>Well, since both of you now admit that you like each other, why don’t you just date during the summer? I think it would be a much better option than being each other’s **** buddy, especially now with your current situation. I can guarantee you that having a fwb relationship right now with feelings involved will result in unfortunate circumstances that could ruin everything that you have with your best friend. I’m no expert on this, but this is just how I feel about this situation. Hope everything works out right.</p>
<p>Magic sex: do it and disappear!</p>
<p>No but really, I don’t think it’s a good idea. Girls DO develop feelings.</p>
<p>(I’m one.)</p>
<p>Why is there the “we can’t date once college starts” thing? If you two truly like each other, you can at least try and make it work, as long as you go to college knowing that things might change. Why not just date her?</p>