<p>So I have been at college for about a month, and I have some pretty good friends. I am a guy, and I have a couple of girl friends, and in particular one of them has been a really good friend, but sometimes I get the feeling that she's kinda annoyed at me. I mean, she's really nice, but she tends to hang out with lots of guys, so I don't know if when she says we are "bff"s if she really means anything like that. Also, sometimes, I get the feeling that she's starting to get annoyed at me or just doesn't want to be around me for some reason. How can I tell if this is true, and what can I do about it?</p>
<p>And the million dollar question is...</p>
<p>We've all had times where we've felt like this, and the only way to get rid of the insecurities is to ask her. You might catch her off guard if you ask her in front of a bunch of people or at a party, where she's liable to lie so she won't hurt your feelings. So find a time when it's just the two of you...I'm sure it's nothing and you're just imagining things; don't worry ;). </p>
<p>As an aside I hate people that do that "BFF" thing with everyone and act like they're everyone's best friend...blech. They're always really hard to read. If a person dislikes me I'd much rather them be upfront about it...</p>
<p>anybody else? And now it seems that she has taken to hanging out with other people completely...</p>
<p>maybe she wanted you to ask her out and you didn't so she got ****ed? it happens</p>
<p>could be something else so be careful, like maybe she just got really mean lol</p>
<p>she playin hard to get fool.</p>
<p>or spetsnaz's opinion.</p>
<p>Update: now she hangs out with some completely new guy, but still wants to be with me often. They seem to be together at the most random times, always going to dinner or out running at midnight. What should I do to get her back aside from hang out with her, and what do I do if she or this guy have any interests in the other?</p>
<p>You've been there for one month and she's your BFF? That seems sketchy to me.</p>
<p>its hard to discover who your real friends are in the first month (year really) at school.</p>
<p>my first year i hung out with tons of people in my dorms...but by the end of it i realized that i had nothing in common with most of them - and i didn't really like most of them. I'm in my third year now and I only see about 2 of them with any regularity - the rest i don't really care if i see or not - even though many of them remained close friends.</p>
<p>my best suggestion is to not get too worked up over it. people put on their best faces when they go to a new place - maybe she just realized that she didn't have much in common with you - or maybe she just found a "new guy." Not the worst that happens - after all its only been a month you have 4 years to meet people.</p>
<p>Also, and I really want to stress this. 1st year girls are no more mature than high school girls. she could just be really immature.</p>
<p>Well we love to just joke around, and jokingly we both say we are BFFs. I mean, I like her as a friend, but rationally, i would have to agree with jags. I guess I could just keep up the friendship and see where it goes from there.</p>
<p>Tell her its plug time, or the friendship is OVER!</p>