<p>I mean there are countless stories about a girl or guy going to the college their "significant other" is attending and then they break up after 3 months or so. And while many relationships end up like this, there are also that manage to thrive.</p>
<p>I'm currently a senior in high school and I will graduate in 21 days, 13 days not including weekends. College is hitting me hard. I know it's life and I know I will meet new people but it makes me very upset knowing that my friends are going separate paths.</p>
<p>However, my situation is not as bad as I make it out to be. I'm heading to UC Davis this fall and most of friends are going to UC Davis, Berkeley, and other NorCal schools. I think I have only a few leaving state or going to Socal for UCLA/USC/other schools. I know that if I want my friendship with my friends in high school to survive I'm going to need to put effort into it and I'm going to try to keep in contact with everyone, and although college changes people. Since Berkeley is only an hour away and there's a Davis-Berkeley shuttle, I'm hoping that I can at least visit Berkeley and my friends there at least once every 2 months on the minimum.</p>
<p>I guess what I'm trying to ask for are advices you may have on how to maintain friendships and a relationship? I guess I have to thank God that Mark was born to create facebook and that skype makes it a lot easier.</p>
<p>Also, personal anecdotes would be highly appreciated, especially those involving Berkeley and Davis.</p>
<p>^Agreed with Batllo.<br>
People change so much in college…sometimes for the better, sometimes not. You’ll make friends at UCD and maybe you’ll see everything in a new light, while your friends at other schools move in different directions too. If you stay friends, that’s fantastic, but if not…c’est la vie.</p>
<p>I had a long distance relationship that lasted into the 2nd semester of my sophomore year. We would just talk every day and skype and stuff. </p>
<p>I have remained close to about 3 or 4 good friends from back home. But these are the kind of people that I can go a few weeks without talking to and pick up like no time passed. These are the kind of friends that you’re going to stay close to.</p>
<p>Honestly though, just texting, skyping, and facebook-ing are the ways to go. You live close so plan a monthly get together if you really want.</p>
<p>People change and there isn’t really anything you can do about that, that said if you can go see your friends without causing financial issues then do it. If not then there are video chat programs…IM programs and all that stuff you can use to talk to people.</p>
<p>Facebook and Skype. Maybe also right letters depending on where they are. I just ended my freshman year and i’ve managed to stay friends with everyone. Like others have said though, the people it will be the easiest to stay in contact with are your true friends. The people who you can go weeks or months without contact and then pickup as if nothing happened.</p>
<p>I would say keep in touch as reasonably as is possible, with the knowledge that college is a busy time where people get in touch with who they really are. People don’t change so much as they do some serious introspection. The other thing to realize is that eventually, all friendships and relationships end (even if you’re friends/dating/married to someone your entire life, eventually one of you is going to die, thus ending the relationship). So don’t worry so much about it. Do your best to take care of the relationships you have, but remain open to new ones, and if an old one is fading away, sometimes the best thing is to let it go gracefully. I’ve actually had a much better semester this year in the Spring than in the Fall, and it’s because I stopped trying so hard to keep in touch with my friends from high school and instead concentrated on making new ones.</p>