<p>There has been this girl who moved into my school two years ago and ever since I have had my eye on her. She is extremely smart, funny and is just plain amazing. I never thought she had any feelings for me at all until she asked me last week why I didnt ask her to the prom. I then told her what I felt and she felt the same way! Now in one week she is going to college in Texas and I am going to New York. This is therapeutic but also maybe asking for any advice on how to handle the situation. I have tried to tell my self that I have no regrets but this one will definitely haunt me. She is just so perfect. It is also the first time I have ever expressed those kinds of feelings to a girl. Thoughts?</p>
<p>Two years?</p>
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<p>No, but seriously, I can understand 6 months... But 2 years? That might be alright if she had a boyfriend the whole time, but she didn't, so that was basically your fault.</p>
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I have tried to tell my self that I have no regrets but this one will definitely haunt me. She is just so perfect. It is also the first time I have ever expressed those kinds of feelings to a girl. Thoughts?
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As much as it may seem like she's the one and like you'll never, ever find someone like that again, you'll eventually get over her and realize that it was just a giant crush.</p>
<p>make a list of everything that's wrong with her and constantly remember those things when you think of her...soon you'll hate her! :-D</p>
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I have tried to tell my self that I have no regrets but this one will definitely haunt me. She is just so perfect.
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First of all, nobody is "so perfect". You're idealizing her. You're imagining all the great times you could have had, hearing her laugh, her smile. All perfect times. And all imaginary. They didn't happen, and while you spend your time imagining all the wonderful times you're spending about zero time imagining the not-so-fun times when she was jealous because you talked to some other girl, where she was ragging on your friends, when she was just P.O'd at you for no reason. The point is you're building castles in the sky.</p>
<p>I'm not trying to say she isn't a wonderful girl or that you couldn't have had a great time with her. But she's not perfect, nor are you or anyone else. She's a person. The first thing to do in handling this is stop making her out to be a wonderful demi-god or no real girl you meet will ever match up to your imagination and you'll continually be disappointed.</p>
<p>The second thing to do is reflect on what you can learn from this. My guess is you never made a move on this girl because you were worried about what would happen if she said no, what your friends would think, what she would tell all the other girls at school, etc. And it cost you. Don't tell yourself you have no regrets. You should have regrets or you'll keep doing the same thing. You don't have to express undying love to ask a girl on a first date; if sometime in the last 2 years you had asked her to do something casual she would have said yes and you would have been on your way. </p>
<p>You're going to college in a week and you'll be surrounded by hundreds if not thousands of unattached girls (or girls who will shortly be unattached after they break up with the HS boyfriend by Xmas, like usually happens). So you can do the same thing you did before and never take a chance unless it's a sure win, or decide you want to change things a bit.</p>
<p>My friend, you waited two years. What are you waiting for now? Ask her if she has a night free before she goes or lunch or something. And get the kiss. And afterwards tell her that you think she is the biggest missed opportunity of your short life (don't say much more), but that if she's ever in New York, she has to come and look you up and stay with you.</p>
<p>And then move on, remembering this lesson: guys almost always have to make the first move, and you must strike while the iron is hot.</p>
<p>Remember, too, like a lot of the posters have said, even if she's as wonderful as you say, she has some downsides. [this is what we tell ourselves in order to endure the fact that we can't have all those we crush on. The fact is no woman is perfect. But this is what you have to work with.]</p>
<p>she asked why you didnt ask her to prom that might not necessarily mean she's looking for a relationship. but who knows, talk to her.</p>
<p>Oh, I've been there. There was a girl who was just so perfect, but as time went on we became distant. Now, I don't even talk to her.</p>
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<p>Bang her IMMEDIATELY and then say something awful that would make her think you're a horrible human.</p>
<p>Win, and with the highest level of satisfaction, too.</p>
<p>something I forgot to add earlier ...</p>
<p>When you romanticize someone the way you have this girl, you create a fictional character that even the actual person can't live up to! So even if somewhere down the road you were to start dating this very girl, you'd STILL end up disappointed.</p>
<p>I say this because I know someone who married a girl from HS after meeting her again at their 5 year reunion. They were just friends in HS, but after college when they met again they started dating and ended up marrying. I hesitated to add this story because I don't want you to put your life on hold for the next 5 years waiting for this girl ;) With the thousands of people that read this forum there are bound to be some who will marry a person they knew from HS; the odds are very small that it will be YOU in particular. Small as the odds are, they are zero if your idea of this girl is of someone who is flawless.</p>
<p>I just have to interject: dreams can come true.</p>
<p>Long story short, there was a girl I lived with that had a boyfriend (that she had been with for a loooong time) that I was <em>very</em> infatuated with... We are now dating, have been for 4 months or so. :)</p>
<p>form a bond with her now by hanging out with her the last few days before she goes to school...then you could always come back during breaks and hook up with her...but i bet you will meet a new girl</p>
<p>Oh geez, stop with all the negativity and stop blaming the OP. Things like this don't happen every day and not everybody finds tons of attractive girls who are willing to hook up their first semester of college (or 2nd, or 3rd...). My advice would be to keep in touch, and see what happens. Maybe after your first semester you will have met other girls you are interested in, and just want to stay friends with this girl. Maybe after a few months you still feel the same way and want to start a long-distance relationship.</p>
<p>The distance will not work very well. Don't regret anything man, a rule I have always lived by is you can make a thousand mistakes as long as you don't make the same one twice. If you find a chick at college that you dig, go for it, and don't think twice. "flirt first, ask her name later!"</p>
<p>You'll get over it, come on man you are going to New York. Just find an chick a couple years older then you and she can show you a few things. Before you know it you won't even remember this girl's name.</p>