She passed her classes – what is lacking there? She lied about whether they were graded BUT YOU LOGGED INTO YOUR ADULT CHILD’S COMPUTER to check? No momma, no, take a breath. We’ve all been there, but no, step back.
She can’t be a successful anything of her choosing, or yours, if you are backseat driving like this. Paying for college gives you the right to set some collaborative parameters, but not the right to second guess and denigrate. Students need confidence in their abilities and decisions, and this behavior doesn’t get you there.
She isn’t pregnant, dropping out, doing drugs. She didn’t fail classes, she didn’t flunk out, she didn’t run away to the circus. She didn’t hang herself in shame, or run away rather than tell you. It’s okay, She’s okay. You’re okay. Breathe…