<p>My friend and I sent in our housing applications and we requested each other.<br>
My problem is that now I don't think I want to be her roomate. She's very high stress and all she does is study (i want to have fun like going to movies and parties and all that jazz). She also is very cheap and never volunteers to pay for anything, so I'm concerned that she will eat all my food and drink all my coffee (which is not cheap) and not buy anything. I'm just so stressed that she will use all my stuff and not be any fun.<br>
We are going into the same major (although I think she's just in it for the salary and not actually sure about it) and she wants to take all the classes together. I have to delay one chemistry so she can catch up and then we'll have to take one chem over the summer. I'm concerned about fitting chem into the short summer semester, but if I take it without her, she'll probably get mad/sad and it will be like living hell having to hear about it.
The only good thing is that I would already know her and she could be a good study buddy. I don't feel like I can openly say "I don't want to be your roomate" because i'm not good at being mean. Should I just wait until we actually live there to see how it goes or should I call the school and see about getting a different roomate?</p>
<p>clearly college is about new experiences, and i think you can find a way to explain that it's not personal, but you want to be pushed to meet new people by living with someone you don't already know from home, blah blah etc etc. can you request to live on the same floor/hall but not actually the same room?</p>
<p>Call the school, you'll just chicken out later.</p>
<p>Just unrequest her somehow and when housing assignments don't pair you up be like "aww, it didn't work out, oh well."</p>
<p>Do you think it's a bad idea to try to take all our courses together?</p>
<p>if she is holding you back,
YES!!!</p>
<p>Yes...very bad idea to take everything together. You don't want to be joined at the hip like that even if y'all were the best of best friends. </p>
<p>I had to take most of my classes the first two quarters with my roommate (I didn't know her before) because we were in Honors Engineering and our school blocks schedules for that...and we were partners in our Engineering classes. It was NOT fun to constantly be around her. She wasn't a bad person in the least, but it was just too much...and it probably didn't help that we were very different people. I ended up moving out at the start of the third quarter, and we haven't spoken since (even though we happen to be taking the same Accounting class this quarter). It just doesn't usually work out too well. </p>
<p>And if I were one of your parents, I'd kick your bum for trying to delay classes and make things harder on yourself just so you can take everything with a friend.</p>
<p>..who knows..maybe she feels the same way.</p>
<p>don't let her hold you back. even if you take one separate class you'll still have quite a few classes together. I would call and try to unrequest her if it's possible. living with friends never works that well.</p>
<p>Hmm, depends on what kind of friendship it is. Two sooner girls from my school are rooming happily at Purdue.</p>
<p>From the OP's description though, those two girls' friendship is probably stronger/closer than the OP and her friend (seems like there's a lot of tension).</p>
<p>Roomatre problems, eh?</p>
<p>I'm just really stressed b/c it's 7 months away and she's already starting to make me have my doubts and get very stressed. We didn't really know each other well, but since we found out we're going to the same college, we have become a lot closer, and I have began to find out how she really is. I almost feel bad for her b/c she doesn't have many friends and I'd feel bad ditching her. I think I'm going to re-arrange my schedule and I still might take some classes w/ her, but for the majority of them I think I might tell her we should take different teachers so we can still study together but not be together 24/7. As far as rooming goes, I think I may try to request a private room. I just don't want to loose the friendship, but I feel like if I'm already having doubts now, it can only get way worse.</p>
<p>jenkster, what part of Oklahoma are you from? I'm from OKC</p>
<p>That's very kind of you and you seem to have a good plan (well at least to my boy ears lol). I have a feeling you two are going to find your own little groups on campus anyways if you're not that similar.</p>
<p>I'm from Tulsa area (Jenks)</p>