<p>Im really, really excited to go to Dartmouth and Im definitely the type of person who parties. Im into the whole Greek scene, but Ive heard negative things about how the Greek scene is so male-oriented (Im a girl btw). Like, guys will jokingly make derogatory remarks to women or if you **** off a guy his whole frat will be against you and theyll make you feel uncomfortable when youre at their house. Im really nervous about this whole thing especially since I have this history of ****ing off jerkoff guys. Like this one guy kept on trying to pressure me into sleeping w/ him, but (since Im Catholic) I rejected him so now his whole group of friends hate me. I really want to remain true to my Catholic values, but Im afraid that at Dartmouth Ill be pressured into doing something I regret or a similar situation will pop up. Dont get me wrong, I dont have this holier-than-thou attitude or anything, and I dont want to stay away from the frat scene any advice, comments? Am I totally wrong about the Dartmouth frat scene (I hope so)? Thanks and sorry about posting about such an awkward subject, its just that this is really worrying me </p>
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<li>there are sororities as well if you want a group of friends</li>
<li>the kind of people at the frats at one of the best schools in the country have obvious differences than the frats at your average school</li>
<li>more women were admitted than guys this year at dartmouth so guys are in the minority</li>
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<p>^^Umm
okay, thanks for responding but your advice doesnt really make sense.
there are sororities as well if you want a group of friends.
I dont want to be friends w/ only girls, I want to be friends w/ guys obviously but Im a little worried about the sketchiness of the frat houses.
the kind of people at the frats at one of the best schools in the country have obvious differences than the frats at your average school
Guys are guys, no matter what school they go to. And Ive heard about the sketchy male-orientated frat scene from a Dartmouth student, so the kind of people at the frats can be found at Dartmouth
more women were admitted guys this year at dartmouth so guys are in the minority.
Okay that makes no sense whatsoever
what does that have to do w/ the social scene??
Im not trying to be b**** I just dont get your advice. And also I see from your previous posts that youre a prefrosh also, so you cant really talk about what Dartmouth is really like can you?</p>
<p>I'm a guy. I'm going to Dartmouth next year too. I plan on getting involved with the frat scene. Some guys are pigs and are like that. Many/most are not, and as a guy it bothers me when other guys are. I realize that there may be some people who are going to be like that at Dartmouth, but I assure you that there are going to be more who aren't (or at least 1 anyway! haha). I too am a prefrosh, so no, I do not know for sure, but I can't see that sort of a thing being much of a problem so long as you align yourself with the right sorts of people. Thats just my two cents but maybe a current student's opinion would be less speculative</p>
<p>ha im not even going to dartmouth (lions '10), i visited there though and i didnt get the sense of what you are alluding to</p>
<p>ff88 you must read Babes in Boyland
A Personal History of Co-Education in the Ivy League
Barreca, Gina</p>
<p>she was a member of i believe of the second coed class at dartmouth
back in the 70s....</p>
<p>and it's been thirty years from now</p>
<p>of course if you do some terrible wrong to a guy, his house will be against you. but you'll still have a dozen other houses to go to. and for small stuff like refusing to sleep with s.o. (especially outside relationship) or etc., you won't find that guys will really be that big of douchebags.</p>
<p>do any female, CURRENT dartmouth students have anything to say?</p>
<p>I don't go out to the frats that much, but I have never experienced any disrespect or hostility from guys when I do. If you are friendly and outgoing, it's going to be tough to make any guy mad. A lot of people do enjoy getting wasted, and sometimes people can make bad decisions because of it. Some people choose to hook up, others don't. No guy is going to drag you home with him or hold a grudge against you when you say no. A lot of guys will forget it by the morning. </p>
<p>Most guys just want to have a good time and are very respectful. They don't want to pressure girls into doing anything they don't want to do. Have you seen the "consexual sex is hot" t-shirts all over campus? Also, our new Student Assembly President is planning to make the campus more safe by taking preventive measures towards sexual abuse. </p>
<p>There are a ton of frats here and if you don't feel comfortable at one, no one will force you to go there. Also, most girls go out to the frats in a group so they can look out for each other. Some girls only go to the dance parties, others like pong, others like just hanging out and meeting people. It's really up to you to shape your experience.</p>