<p>So at tonight's football game, I was hanging with some friends and found out this girl I was planning on asking to Homecoming was just asked earlier that day. I had already made some plans and had her friends kind of in on it, and all he really did was go and buy some chocolate and flowers.
So for the rest of the game I felt like a piece of crap, then my friend told me that this other girl hasn't been asked yet. She's pretty cute, but I honestly had my heart set on the original girl, as more than just an HC date.
So, pretty much I'm deflated as hell now and HC is just 3 weeks away. I don't really feel like going anymore, but I know there's girls who would likely say yes if I asked them.
Thoughts? and honestly, please no trolling..</p>
<p>Wow…story of my life. Like…seriously…wow. </p>
<p>Last year, I had my heart set on a good friend of mine, and I was planning on asking her, but one of my friends beat me to it. To make things worse, he asked me if I could help him ask her to HC. Obviously, once that happens, I can’t simply ask her to the dance after he pretty much told me he was going to do so. So eventually she went with him, and I simply stayed home. The group they went with pleaded me to go with them, as they were a mixed group (solo and partner), but I was too depressed to go, especially in the same group. I really liked her too. But ever since the two went to the dance together, they were increasingly showing signs that they liked each other, so it was such a painful year to go through. Eventually though, the girl and I got into a serious discussion about lots of different things, and the HC dance came up, along with the subject of whether she likes the guy or not. Turned out she didn’t, to my absolute surprise. I’d lie if I said I didn’t feel happy, since that’s what I wanted, but I did feel horrible feeling happy. Pretty weird in that way. And then from there, yadayadayada. Private stuff I won’t share with you =P</p>
<p>So, point of the story is, you can’t know what to expect in the future. I know, cliche as hell. But what I’m saying is that you shouldn’t hold yourself down. Yes, you may feel “deflated” and depressed, but don’t let that last and extend to other areas. Live and forget a bit. You should have fun at HC, and simply thinking about this whole thing isn’t going to help that. You said there were plenty of girls that would say yes to you. Go ask! Get a date, get to know her, and have fun at the dance. I found myself in a similar situation as yours, and all I did was inflict pain on myself, and for no truly good reason. Learn from my mistake and be sure not to do the same. Who knows! The guy who asked out your target date might catch polio and die tomorrow, and then you’d be free to ask her! jk jk, but yeah, don’t be down too much. =)</p>
<p>Blergh, that sucks man. But homecoming isn’t the be-all end-all, and you and whoever you choose to ask deserve a good time regardless, so you should just go ahead and ask this other girl, have fun at homecoming with her, then see what’s going on with this original girl afterwards. Maybe they’re just going as friends or maybe nothing will come out of it between them and you’ll be able to make your move and see where it goes from there. I don’t think you should worry about it too much.</p>
<p>Same thing happened to one of my good friends. He was set on asking this girl he’s been crushing on since middle school but never openly admitted even though everyone knew about it, but then someone asked her out literally hours before he was about to. He got over her, and we all still had a great time.</p>
<p>Thanks for your answers, my friend who’s really close friends with the second girl says that she got asked by a senior on thursday… but I guess at this point since I’m a junior I still have next year. Aero, that absolutely sucked for your friend, I should be happy I didn’t really go through all the trouble of getting everything set up. I was already getting ready to start putting the ideas to action, so I should be grateful I found out before that happened.</p>