<p>I don’t think you’re rushing. Hopefully by now you really know the guy. If you two love each other, and are willing to compromise and work arguments out in a constructive manner, and understand that people change over time… then you should be fine. Definitely hold off on the kids for a while… knowing law enforcement, your soon-to-be husband’s gonna be working a lot of erratic hours until he gains more seniority in his department and can pick (or at least request) his shifts. I wish you both the best of luck!</p>
<p>@NonAntiAnarchist, for a lot of people it still holds a religious meaning. For others, it’s sort of “expected” by their families to get that Mrs. in front of their name. But yes, those are the biggest benefits of getting married for me. That and, idk, it really is a commitment.</p>
<p>@nonantianarchist …dude i totally agree. i think marriage is an institution whose function is basically to act as an instrument for promoting state interests. i have more to say on the subject, but uh…my opinion is kind of irrelevant to the OP’s question so…<em>awkwardly backs out of thread</em></p>
<p>@NAA, I agree. Marriage to me is whatever. I’m only getting married for the perks. My religion has no need for legal marriage. Why people feel the need for a piece of paper to be joined to another person is beyond me.</p>
<p>What I meant is that I didn’t want to have kids late in life. When I was younger I didn’t think I would ever get married but if I did wanted to have kids as soon as I could because I didn’t want to be an old man with young kids. Also, I knew the longer that I waited, the less and less I would want kids. </p>
<p>Marriage to me is about man and a woman committing themselves to each other. Yes, the law requires us to get a marriage license, but at the basic level marriage is about love, commitment, and setting the foundation for building a family. To me, the marriage vows are very important. It is an oath that more people should take seriously if they choose to say the vows, followed by “I do.” However, there are some bad things in marriage that we as humans with emotions simply don’t want to endure and that is when divorce comes in.</p>
<p>If you are just dating (or single) you have free range of mobility and you can go wherever to find a job. I guess you could be married and have one person work in Atlanta and one person work in Chicago, but that doesn’t really make much sense to me.</p>
<p>I think you should be 100% financially stable. Getting married when you have no job = not financially stable.</p>
<p>I think you should only get married if you’re 100% sure. If you’re looking for feedback from kids online, you’re probably not sure. </p>
<p>We don’t know you or your boyfriend and can’t give you a definite answer. Finances and having a steady job are part of it, but also only you know if you’re ready to be married. It’s possibly one of the biggest decisions you’ll make in your life and not something to be rushed into unless you are positive.</p>