getting over rejection is hard

<p>Hey guys. It's so sad to say, but this is my first post ever and it's about rejection. I don't even know if this is where you post it...but hey. Anyway to get down to it I got rejected from UCLA and it sucks-big time. My grades were ok 3.6 and lets face it, my SAT scores aren't through the roof. But that's not why it hurts. It hurts because I'm a minority-Latina-and my whole life I've been fed this idea that whatever it is I wanted I could do it. Well I wanted UCLA. And I worked hard, maybe harder than some of the people that got accepted because I had to defy so many odds. Like choosing to go to school 45 mins away so I wouldn't be in the ghetto and blah blah blah-yes all that typical stuff you see in the movies.
It just hurts because I did so much...and still, nothing. I guess I'm just butt hurt...I dunno...I just needed to express it.
I decided to go to UCSD, a great school no doubt. But every time I hear that someone else got into UCLA, I can't help but feel a bit disappointed. </p>

<p>Any criticisms on my feelings toward rejection?</p>

<p>Nah it's normal. I felt the same way for a few days.</p>

<p>yeah..i hope so cuz I'm tired of feeling like this I have so much to look forward to in SD! i even went to go visit with my friend and saw how well I would fit in! o gosh...</p>

<p>I understand what you're going through. Getting over rejection is hard... I had to get over getting rejected by my dream school and other schools that I would've liked to attend in its place. I cried so many tears till I felt numb all over. I'm a guy who hasn't cried in years, btw. </p>

<p>But you have to move on... what can you do? Hey, at least you're going to a decent college. College is what you make out of it... you just need to find your niche. If you make the most out of your college experience, it won't matter what college you attended at the end.</p>

<p>Did you get the supplemental application were you could explain your struggles? I pretty much fit your description, except I'm male. And I got offered the supplement and still didn't get in. I didn't even get into UCSD. So consider yourself lucky!</p>

<p>I'm pretty much the same, except a black/hispanic male, and my commute is an hour and a half</p>

<p>And yea after all of that effort it does suck to get rejected from your first choice. I didn't get into Stanford, and I always thought at least the big decisions went my way. I got over it pretty quickly, honestly. Hearing about the people who got into Stanford does make me a bit upset, but it's nothing big.</p>

<p>The easiest way to deal with that would be to just move on. Start getting yourself ready for UCSD life. I don't know how that school works, but get all of your housing and other stuff straight, and eventually you'll forget about UCLA.</p>

<p>Here's my opinion -
Call me a sore looser, but I know I would make a perfect candidate for MIT \ Caltech \ HMC \ Stanford - but they all rejected me.</p>

<p>Looks like the admission process is not so hollistic after all! (my sat scores were low as I immigrated to the US from India 2 months into second semester of junior year, and I have only 7 APs (no APs in India obviously!))</p>

<p>But you know, they can go suck eggs for all I care! They missed taking me in - I did not miss my chance of admission! No, I was not depressed for a moment when I received any of my rejections - they were the loosers, not me</p>

<p>If your are confident about your abilities, you shouldn't be worried about such minor (yes, minor) setbacks at all. If you devote yourself to your future completely, there can be no stopping you.</p>

<p>And if you can't get over UCLA, you can always transfer, right?</p>

<p>anarchy99 -- if you counted as an international student, that's probably what did it. International students, especially Indian ones, do not have a great time of it in the admissions game, even if they are excellent and numerically-qualified.</p>

<p>Noldo, I am a permanent resident of the USA and count (which I think is perfectly fair) as a national applicant...</p>

<p>Ah. Yeah, as a permanent resident you'd be in the domestic pool, so I stand corrected. :)</p>

<p>I think that we are just made to beleive that the process i snot just centered around grades.
It just isn't so - yes, extracurriculars may hold some importance, but scores are mostly all that matter
Hell! I get about 3 to 4 hours a sleep a day working on 5 AP classes and 2 research projects, and a business venture!
My junior year, I had 2 APs and even though I was an wntire emester behind my class, I still got 4s in the test...</p>

<p>Well, I guess life is full of setbacks - this is just one of them - a test... </p>

<p>Oh! and I'm choosing between
University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign (UIUC)
UCSD
Any suggestions would be really helpful.</p>

<p>For anarchy99: depends on which one you are majoring in and which school is giving you better fin-aid.</p>

<p>majoring in Computer Science, and fin aid is about the same (thats what makes this so hard.
Some people told me that UIUC, ranking No.4 in CS nationwide is a better choice
Others told me that although UCSD is rank 9 in CS, since it is rising in CS rank, it is the better place to be at...</p>

<p>PS - this is so weird! when i started a seperate thread asking for help, no one replied, but when I asked here, I got a reply... funny! :)</p>

<p>Yea I understand how hurtful rejections are :( but thats life, eh? and as corny as this may sound, rejections are what makes people stronger! I think the ability to rise from this experince and make the most of your new environment is what really counts.
I know my vice principal at school didn<code>t go to a very well known college. He</code>s only in his mid-30<code>s but he was just promoted to the position as a vice prinicipla this year (he was just a normal teacher in our school before). He</code>s the boss of people who`ve attended places like Penn and Cambridge. He told me in the end, its not where you went to college that counts- but what kind of person you are and how you think thats important. </p>

<p>Although this personal anecdote is just one example, I hope it shows that opportunities are what you make of it!</p>