man, it sucks. I just got rejected from this summer program and I feel like crap. I’m only a junior now too…it must suck to get rejected from a college.
<p>It does. I just got my first and only rejection from a college that I'll get thoughout this entire process. The weird this is that I'm not upset about not being able to go to a certain university. I'm only upset because I really couldn't have done anything differently or better than what I did even if I wanted to do so. Let's just say that I can't exactly join a varsity sport or what not without fearing for my life (was involved in lots of other activities though), and it would have been really painful for me to set myself up to take the SATIIs or even to take the ACT again because I'd have (and did apply and receive it) to apply for extended time each time that I'd take it (check my previous posts if you want to know why). Oh well. That's life.</p>
<p>Do I regret applying to that school? No. Am I getting over the rejection? Yes and pretty quickly at that. Am I happy overall with my other acceptances? Yes. Am I excited and happy to be able to be a Wolverine next fall? Heck yes!! In the end, those answers are all that matters.</p>
<p>Getting rejected from colleges are painful.. but I can get over that.</p>
<p>But getting B*tched at by your parents BECAUSE you got rejected? That's the part of getting rejected I hate.</p>
<p>Oh well. Not everything works out the way we intend/want them to :)</p>
<p>really hhboyji? i am assuming your asian.
i am asian also, but i think i am more anxious than my parents are. i told them how i dont want to look in the mail this week coz i am expecting a uva letter. they said who cares?? it is true that they dont expect much from me, but still they are asian!!! how can they not be upset at me?
i guess i am more anxious coz uva is a prestigious institution and maybe that will shut them up</p>
<p>It makes no sense to me that a parent would get mad at you for being rejected from a college. It's a decision that is completely beyond your control and with the whole plethora of reasons why someone would be rejected, I fail to see how you as the rejectee would be at fault for it.</p>
<p>Na na na... I know worse reject case... My friend got rejected by Yale EA but there is another girl from his school got accepted EA by Yale... But she's waiting for Stanford RD now... She said she doesn't like Yale but ***, if she doesn't why apply Yale EA? and my friend right now is feeling real :( because he thought that if that girl didn't apply EA, he could have gotten in, or at least a defer... we are int by the way...</p>
<p>Yeppers, i'm an asian. Korean, to be specific.</p>
<p>My parents are NOT satisfied with the schools I've gotten into (George mason, james madison, mary washington, and BU with university scholar). I'm waiting on 5 more schools which of 4 I'm expecting rejections from. (GWU, JHU, Cornell, UVA, and NYU)</p>
<p>I applied to 12 schools total, and got waitlisted at one (W+M), and just got 2 rejections (NU, Wellesley). GUess what, I haven't told them about the bad news yet. They will freak out, and my mom will go on and on about how I should've taken $2,000 SAT prep course, which I said No cuz it makes up 2 months worth of our apartment rent. I did get 28 in ACT, which my parents thought was terrible. I have 3.8 GPA, taking 6 AP/IB courses (4 last yr), in top 6% of my class, have ton of awards, and my EC kicks serious butt. </p>
<p>Yep, I'm damn afraid that my parents will freak out and be all b*ichy about it, which they will. I have worked my butt off for 3 freaking years and now it's time for me to be proud of myself for what I was able to achieve.. but my parents are being just pure jerks about it. Oh well, their loss. Moved to US 3 yrs ago, not being able to speak a word of ENglish. I've been working prt-job (20-30hrs/wk) ever since I was able to understand what ppl are saying, and got my first car without asking my parents for help. I plan on paying for all my college tuition, I speak damn near perfect English without a trace of an accent, I get good grades, I thrive outside of classroom (featured in newspapers several times for my community service),I don't do drugs/alcohols, and I even said no when I was asked to join a gang.</p>
<p>and they will still say I'm sucky daughter for what, not getting into schools like JHU. They are always disappointed cuz I don't make all A honor rolls or didn't get into UVA ED. My dad literally told me in person he'll be damn disapopinted if I don't get into big-name schools like UVA. He said UVA is minimum I can go. HAHA I can do nothing but laugh. They TELL me I should get in and go to big name schools, like it's up to me lol To them it's all about what OTHERS think. They want me to go to big name schools that everyone knows they're good. Yep, they're jerks, and I don't like them.</p>
<p>I'm just venting here.. I have serious depression issues thanks to my father which he totally denies and refuses to get me any sort of help cuz he's too ashamed. </p>
<p>Yep, that's how my life is, but I still try to stay optimistic.</p>
<p>Dealing with rejections will be harder than I thought. Not for me, but for my parents. </p>
<p>Sorry for making you guys read this boring, f-ed up life story of mine lol</p>
<p>-Jay</p>
<p>i think it's time for you to make your parents understand it's your effin' life and you can do what you want... lol or you can slowly disappoint them until their standards for you lower and they're just happy with whatever =X oh btw i'm asian</p>
<p>hhboyji: As a father, I feel very sad when I read your post. It is indeed a time when you should be proud of all you have accomplished- you have done wonderful things in the last three years.</p>
<p>I am not Asian, but my recommendation is to have a third-party with you and your parents when you discuss the results of your college admissions. Perhaps a guidance counselor from your school, a religious leader or a respected elder from your community.</p>
<p>I am proud that my daughter is going to McGill next year. I cant understand why UVA wouldn't accept you after all you have overcome.</p>
<p>Best of luck. Your life will be fine with the attitude and determination you have displayed. Hang in there- people grow up and make their own way if their family is not helpful.</p>
<p>Chuck</p>
<p>hhboyji,
I am so sorry about the things you have to face with your parents. You have done so much and been accepted at some great schools. It is too bad they can't accept you as you are and be proud of you. I hope that you can still find a way to be proud of yourself, despite them. </p>
<p>My son has received two rejections this week, as well as a financial aid offer from another college that means it will be impossible to afford. One of the rejections (actually a wait list) was from a school that was his first choice for over a year, one that he could probably have gotten into had he been willing to study for the SAT II's and do a little more work in his English class. However, I know my son. His love is music, not English, and he feels tests are necessary evils that he is only willing to do once and not willing to waste time studying for. I am proud of him for his ability in music and for being strong enough to do what he feels is right, rather than be swayed by pressure to "prove himself."</p>
<p>My son's attitude toward his rejections was to frown for a moment and then say,"Well, it will make my decision easier now, because I have fewer schools to choose from." He does still have two excellent schools that have accepted him, one with a decent financial aid offer. (The other we are still waiting for.) They are not big name schools like the two that rejected him, but they are great places, and I think he could be happy at either.</p>
<p>So...yes, rejection can hurt, but it can also be taken in stride and accepted as part of life--and even a positive thing, in some ways.</p>
<p>"I'm just venting here.. I have serious depression issues thanks to my father which he totally denies and refuses to get me any sort of help cuz he's too ashamed. "</p>
<p>hhboyji,</p>
<p>I am very concerned about your depression. Please talk to your GC or family physician because there definitely is help available which you can get without your family's involvement.</p>
<p>Typically the most effective treatment for depression is therapy plus medication. The medication can lift the depression enough that you can develop more energy and more optimism, which can help you address your problems, particularly through therapy.</p>
<p>Your family doctor can help you get medication. Your parents do not need to know about this. </p>
<p>There also should be free or very low cost places in your community where you can get help for your depression. This can include community mental health clinics and places like Catholic Social Services and Lutheran Social Services, which provide nonreligious counseling to people of any faith. Local colleges' counseling centers also may provide some services to community residents.</p>
<p>It truly is sad to hear how little appreciation your parents seem to have for your impressive accomplishments. Could this be due to your parents coming from a culture that thinks that good parenting is inspiring offspring by constantly pushing them to do better, even if the parents are genuinely proud and pleased with what their children are doing? I know that there are cultures that think that complimenting offspring somehow is harming the offspring or setting them up for bad luck.</p>
<p>Congratulations on your various accomplishments.</p>
<p>I suggest that you reach out to people in your life who do show appreciation of your accomplishments, and who do encourage you. Think about people who, when you are around them, you feel happy. We may not be able to select our birth families, but we can create our families of the heart. The people who support you and in whose presence you feel valued are your relatives of the heart. Build on your relationships with them and keep them in your life. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, you can't change your parents' behavior or their reaction to you. You can, though, have caring people in your life who do appreciate you.</p>
<p>Thank you all for such kind comments and showing concerns. I'll be fine, I'm sure. </p>
<p>I just got accepted to George Washington U. today :) Feeling very very content right now. Of course my parents aren't as happy as I am, but nothing can ruin my happiness today!!!</p>
<p>Thank you all :)</p>
<p>congrats hhboyji!</p>
<p>Your problem with your parents are shared among so many teens, alot of them asian =/. Dont worry, when you grow up and your parents understand how it works here in the U.S., they'll change and understand (I'm asian btw). Its just that their culture is so differnet, and they were probably pushed just as hard, if not harder by their parents and themselves when they were in Korea. The fact that in countries like Korea and China, your college entrance exam and teh college you go to pretty much determines your fate in life contributes to this exorbitant determination. My parents (Chinese) I think were the only ones, or among the very few in their high schools to even go to college, and it was a HUGE deal because it allowed them to go places in life, come to the US and make a better life for me. I am lucky because they have come to understand the culture in the U.S., and don't frown upon me if I get a 99 on a test or whatever (they used to =/). They understand that education and life here is very different from China becuase there are so many more opportunities. </p>
<p>Because of the wealth of opportunities available to us, we are able to go beyond petty things like test scores and pursue other, more meaningful things in life. Personally, I'm not gona blame my parents if they are hard on me and don't recognize my accomplishments as often; it's not their fault that they weren't offerred the opportunities offered to me. However, I will help them make the change and understand the culture of the U.S. I came to the U.S. 10 years ago, and my parents had plenty of time to make that change. Now, they are very supportive of me and encourage me to do the things I like. I'm sure that your parents, if you give them time, will do the same. Good luck with everything!</p>