<p>I was just curious about how long it took you guys to make friends at your respective colleges...and did those friends become those like "lifelong" kind of friends?</p>
<p>I guess you meet a lot of people in the dorms. They make dorm life sound very social...like as soon as you walk in you are surrounded by people who want to get to know you, and vice versa.</p>
<p>my college friends say that their closest friends are still the ones from high school</p>
<p>I agree! High school friends are the best!</p>
<p>high school friends are trash, mostly.</p>
<p>i don't have too many friends from high school...only a few, in fact. i moved to a different high school every year...parent's work and all. really sucked.</p>
<p>well all this talk about high school friends is fine and dandy, i believe the op was asking about college friendships. i'm a bit curious myself.</p>
<p>I don't know; it depends I guess on you, and then, partly luck. I had a tough finding close friends my first year, and that was tough because I was REALLY close to a few people in high school. Some people meet their best friends their first few weeks of school; but if you don't, don't beat yourself up over it because it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Meeting someone you have chemistry with and click with does depend on luck, a little, though of course you have to try by joining clubs and taking the initiative socially. </p>
<p>I did end up meeting one girl on my floor who I count as one of my absolute best friends now, and then there are a few (though not many) people I hope to grow into lifelong friends with, so here's to next year!</p>
<p>I didn't have any close friends the entire first semester... and it was so depressing! I finally started making friends about mid-spring-semester and they are seriously the most awesome friends ever. I have made a ton of friends through them and I seriously miss the hell out of them when I'm not in town (luckily, I only live 35-40 minutes away from the town my college is in, so I see them fairly regularly even now in the summer). They are so much fun!!! I am really close with alot of them now too, and we've just gotten closer this summer. </p>
<p>Btw, none of them live in my dorm. I was only friends with like two people in my entire dorm last year, and my roommate wasn't one of them. We weren't very close friends either. My dorm was just not very social. Hopefully, it'll be a little different this year, since I'm living with a friend in a co-ed dorm (all-female dorms can get b!tchy and seperatist sometimes). I met almost all of my friends outside of the dorm and class, mostly through swing dancing. </p>
<p>I only have one friend from high school that I keep in touch with ALOT, my best friend Jessica. I talk to a couple others semi-regularly (a couple times a month) but I talk to Jessica at least once a week when I'm away at school and multiple times when I'm at home.</p>
<p>Oh great, this is depressing. So you guys didn't make good friends until half the year was over?? Not looking too good. I'm gonna have to become really social in college.</p>
<p>this is CC.</p>
<p>I'm just an incoming freshman, but my brother's four years older than me...I learn a ton from him.</p>
<p>Ok, my brother was pretty lonely his first semester of college until he got involved on his dorm basketball team. He became really good friends with four or five guys doing basketball, and then met a crap-load of great people through them (one of which is his girlfriend of two years). </p>
<p>He's a bit reserved around people he doesn't know, so he comes off a bit stand-offish. <em>But</em> once you get him doing something he enjoys, he's really outgoing and pee-your-pants-hilarious (I'm talking Jon Stewart/Stephen Colbert hilarious, here).</p>
<p>The best thing to do to make friends is get involved and let your guard down a little.</p>
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<p>Ha, speak for yourself.</p>
<p>Most of the people I know, if they didn't join a sorority, they didn't really make friends until second semester. Or at least, near the end of first semester. I met some people first semester but didn't really become great friends until second.</p>
<p>I'm a shy person who had few high school friends, but I managed to make a few college friends quite early on. They started as casual friends and then some of them gradually became close to me. In the meantime, I made more and more friends. I'd say that by the end of my first year I had quite a nice social group, but I actually met even more people as I got into my sophomore and junior years. I will note that it probably helps if you're at a college where they let you choose where you live, because you can choose a place where you're compatible with the people.</p>
<p>I'm a student blogger for MIT Admissions, and I actually wrote a recent blog</a> entry about making friends in college...hope it helps! :)</p>
<p>Your high school friendships tend to drop away in college. People go away, get new friends, change a lot, and keeping up can be tough. Meeting new people is only as hard as you make it- leave your door open when you're in your room studying. Be social at dinner and breakfast. Introduce yourself to people in your classes that interest you. Go to functions for clubs. You'll meet people naturally, as college is a very social environment.</p>
<p>One thing i don't reccommend doing is latching on to friends your roommate or another friend has. Make your own group. College friendships are some of the longest lasting in your lifetime.</p>
<p>I know my two best friends are still my HS best friends. Even though we are on seperate sides of the country and only get to see eachother on breaks, we talk on the phone a LOT, and are just as close as ever. You know a friendship is awesome when you can not talk or see someone for a while and then it's just the same as ever when you do re-connect. I havn't exactly found my niche yet at school, but I have people I see potential in. </p>
<p>I think most people make close friends with their hall in the first few days. I wasn't lucky enough to become super bonded with my hall (we were all friendly, but because I didn't party with them the first few nights, I was never really close with them). Hopefully that will break up a bit and make it easier to befriend some of those people who were in the super tight knit groups. </p>
<p>Ultimately, just be yourself, because you don't want to be friends with people who only like you for who they think you are.</p>
<p>Haha, "leave the door open while you study"</p>
<p>Just hope no one runs in and takes something without you noticing.</p>
<p>I'm pretty shy and it took me about 2 months to get a real "group." I'd say the key is socializing with your floor immediately and going to parties with them (even if you don't drink much). I didn't go to parties at first and that's when the whole floor bonded. You'll probably meet your main group of friends in your major, especially if it's a relatively small major.
And you will keep in contact with less of your high school friends. It takes 2 people to keep that kind of friendship going. But at least in my experience, my high school friends are still my best friends, and if anything the friendships have gotten stronger since college.</p>
<p>i was one of the lucky ones who met my best friends within the first two months of college. since then, i have made a few more very close friends, and we all keep in touch during the summer with phone/email/facebook. college friends make most high school "friends" pale in comparison. unlike in high school, you're not forced to associate with a certain group because of proximity; rather you seek out those who you can feel that connection with. </p>
<p>i didn't meet my best friends the "traditional" way..as in, they weren't part of my dorm. except for my roommate, all of my best friends i have met by chance, whether it be in a large lecture class, at the hillel, or just through the friend of a friend. </p>
<p>so it's hard for me to come up with advice, and the advice i do have is kind of unorthodox: i believe that you know within the first few weeks after meeting someone if that person has the potential to move beyond acquaintance territory to become your close friend. although i do have acquintances, i don't think i spend as much time with them as others do. it's not that i feel it's a waste of time; i'd just rather spend my time with someone who i know i'll eventually become closer to. i don't mean for this to sound strategic or cynical, but i believe that a person naturally and perfectly "clicks" with only a few other people, and i spent time in the first few weeks seeking these out rather than trying to ingratiate with people i knew i could never really get completely comfortable with. that decision really paid off.</p>
<p>I don't think I know how to make friends anymore... I've been hanging out with my high school friends for so long. How do I stop myself from thinking this sort of mentality?? Help!!</p>