<p>Large lecture classes don't seem like the best place to meet new people because everyone's already absorbed in their own business and conversations. Most of them aren't really looking to introduce themselves unless they happen to not know anyone else on campus.</p>
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liveforindie - I was just curious about how long it took you guys to make friends at your respective colleges...and did those friends become those like "lifelong" kind of friends?</p>
<p>I guess you meet a lot of people in the dorms. They make dorm life sound very social...like as soon as you walk in you are surrounded by people who want to get to know you, and vice versa.
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Yes, definitely. Anyone in their freshman year at a university or a four-year college should really live in dorms or, as my university calls them, residence halls. I stopped leaving my door open when a neighbor started visiting too frequently. The added presence in the room just became too distracting.</p>
<p>I noticed that it's usually adjusting to the new surroundings that's the problem. A lot of classmates were depressed because they couldn't bring themselves to make introductions first. They waited for others to do it or they hide behind the reason that it's because they're "shy." My mindset when my shyness starts to overpower me? "What if the person you want to meet is just as shy as you are?" I balance my introversion with some extroversion because doing so is healthy.</p>
<p>The easiest way for me last year was through same classes. Some of these people eventually did turn out to be friends that are probably my lifelong friends. Of course, I just try to flow with things. Sometimes, some relationships just don't work out (because of a misunderstanding or the parting of ways just happened naturally) and when they don't, it's alright.
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<p>To the person who said you couldn't make any new friends because of your close HS friends--as a senior, didn't you meet some freshmen you didn't know before?</p>
<p>But yeah, college is tough. I don't party and would rather commit suicide than drink alcohol. I made the wrong choice of school and found that nobody wanted to be with me because of my choices.</p>
<p>Life is hard when you have to sit on the sidelines. So I transferred. And it turns out my best friend in college is..........one of my best friends from high school. The other guy I spend a lot of time with on campus......also went to my high school. My two other close friends aren't even from America, and one already went home to Jamaica to stay.</p>
<p>Realizing I need to find some group that has similar beliefs to me, I am going to join a Bible study that is run through the college next semester. I didn't want to join anything in case I transferred again but since I'm going to stay I might as well get to know some people. Historically I get along better with folks younger than me anyway, so I might as well meet the freshmen.</p>
<p>Classes work too, but only if you get to work in groups.</p>
<p>I met most of the friends I have now through one person, or through people I met through that person. I met my friend Laura in a self-defense class and she is one of the most awesome people I know! She took me swing dancing and I have met ALOT of people doing that. Seriously, ALL my close friends I have met in college go to swing. It's really cool though because we all have the same interest. And it's cool because we all know how to dance awesomely ;) </p>
<p>Seriously the best thing you can do is live on or near campus, even if you live nearby (like in the next town over or something). I live about half an hour away from my college but I don't know what I would've done if I hadn't been able to live in my dorm last year. I know I wouldn't have been nearly as involved or made as many friends (because I wouldn't have been able to do as much, like go to swing dancing and such) if I lived at home. My mom's just like that, she would've wanted me home at a certain time. I know this for a fact because I'm commuting this summer and it's awful. I can't wait til I move back into my dorm in 3 weeks!</p>
<p>I recommend the "hangout" places on campus. I used to hangout at an on-campus coffee place and met some really good friends there.</p>
<p>One of the best places to meet people are at club or organizational meetings. Like someone already said, you aren't forced to become friends with someone because you see them every day in HS. You now have the option of surround yourself with people of common interests or concerns.</p>
<p>You can always start a "Rotation" club. If you are taking a large lecture hall intro class, then you can get together with people for a "rotation". So not everyone has to attend every class. Then you can get together and copy notes, study for tests and do the class papers/projects together. You can still do this if your prof has a sign-in sheet.</p>
<p>Even if you live on campus, try and make friends with someone who lives off-campus or commutes. Find out where the commuters hangout, there maybe an on-campus commuter lounge. SO if you don't have a car and they do, they can still drive you around. Commuters also know where everything is and can help you out in your new school town.</p>
<p>lastly, if you are shy or reserved, practice your introductions and handshake, "Hello, my name is..." can be very difficult to say as a freshman.</p>
<p>To the person that posted about the MIT blog...HAHAHA...this is a bit awkward eh?</p>
<p>"i think u remember me,i sent u comment a month back but i have no replies iam wondering why i think u feel very much harder to accept persons like me outside ur community as a member or as friend
or there may be other reasons for u to not even sending a reply ok doesn't matter atleast now can u identify me. please atleast now send me reply
from miles away
sriram a student from India"</p>
<p>Taken from the MIT blog page, below the entry.</p>
<p>Strange...</p>
<p>Well, thanks for the posts you guys. :)</p>
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To the person that posted about the MIT blog...HAHAHA...this is a bit awkward eh?
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<p>If I could ever figure out who the guy was or what he was trying to say, I'd reply to him. :) As it is...I understand that English probably isn't his first language but jeez, if I wrote something in French to a native French speaker that was as incomprehensible as his comments are to me, I wouldn't expect an answer. What is this about "i think you feel very much harder to accept persons like me outside ur community as a member or as friend"? What are "persons like me" and what is "ur community" in the context of my blog?</p>