girl problem

<p>well, a girl i like has had a bf for a while but now she is single..how do i tell her i like here? ah</p>

<p>You leave her alone. My current GF got out of a year and a half long relationship and all she wanted fo ra while was to be single. I'm sure thats how that girl is feeling right now. Keep flirting and show her ur interested but I really odnt think she'd watn to jump into a relationship and if she is willing to get into one, it may not mean anything but you being her rebound.</p>

<p>yes thats exactly what i think too, do u think it would be okay to let her know i like her ; im not asking to be in a relationship</p>

<p>Nah. Well I didnt. I thought it would put pressure on her and make things awkward if she didnt feel the same way. Give it time. Let her relish being single and but keep flirting.</p>

<p>All these girls threads. Who the hell cares. I look at porn twice a week- that's more than enough.</p>

<p>...don't judge me!</p>

<p>^ LOL. I guess theres..that option too.</p>

<p>i'm actually in a very similar situation meza. the only difference is that I don't like the girl like that, but I think she likes me.... I think it depends on the situation. In my situation I could pretty easily ask her to a movie this weekend (she broke up with her BF last week) and it would be fine.</p>

<p>In your situation... i dunno, too many variables. I think it depends on who dumped who in her last relationship, your relationship with her ex-boyfriend, your relationship with her... and all that. But I for sure wouldn't tell her you like her, yet. I would save that until you're pretty sure that she feels the same way. Just hang out, flirt, do whatever, and when you think the time is right, go for it.</p>

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well, a girl i like has had a bf for a while but now she is single..how do i tell her i like here? ah

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Good to see you didn't leave any details out so we can help you out. (Although I wouldn't take girl advice from the nerds here ;))</p>

<p>My honest opinion: half the battle is showing up. If you ask her out and she turns you down, it sucks, but at least you'll know. But if you don't find out, you'll always wonder, and you'll eventually regret it. </p>

<p>Go for it. Always.</p>

<p>^ Yeah, I agree, but you gotta know when to time it. Poor timing can ruin the whole thing. So for sure go for it, but just make sure to pick the right time. (That time probably being when you're sure she's over her ex and is into you).</p>

<p>Be there as a friend [until she is completely over her previous relationship] then start getting closer to her.</p>

<p>Don't be there as a friend. Then she will never see you romantically.</p>

<p>as a friend in the beginning.. to give her support. He cant just randomly spring out of the ground and be like, hey whats up, wanna go out with me?</p>

<p>But he cannot become her crying shoulder, either! That's even worse!</p>

<p>jesus people, okay then dont be her friend. i was just suggesting, if he doesnt want to be her friend than thats fine, its not like it will kill me if he doesnt become her friend. lol chill</p>

<p>I just think you do not understand the danger of "friend zone". When it comes to sexual/romantic attraction.</p>

<p>Hmm, probably. I can see your point, but i would be freaked out if someone randomly popped up. But i guess thats just me. You seem to know what your talking about. =]</p>

<p>Well, he wouldn't randomly pop up. Unless he's a weird stalker guy, he and the girl probably know each other.</p>

<p>smile and expose urself!! letting her know that u exist!</p>

<p>Just dont be on the "just Friends" list. I say go for her since you maybe not the only one wanting to date her... Some jerk is going to take advantage of her in her state..might as well be a person like you, since you seem like you care alot about her.</p>

<p>Waiting a long time is a horrible idea (could be forever). I meant give her some time to heal but not like months/years....thats my opinion</p>

<p>Be very gradual about it. I've come to like this one person, and here's what I did. At first, we would go to events together but made sure we invited other people. I would say something like "hey, do you want to go to <strong><em>? I'll call _</em></strong> and ___ to see if they're available. Invite whomever you want." Then we started noticing that people don't show up, leaving the two of us to spend time alone. We didn't point out how weird it was... we just went with the flow. We also started calling each other and arranging get-togethers just when others would just happen to be busy (we used to postpone the meet-up otherwise). When we're together, we don't talk about romance at all, just because doing so might introduce a topic that would prompt either of us to declare our interest and find out it's unrequited (that's what I'm afraid will happen to me). Btw, I don't actually know what he's thinking-- this is just my analysis. So I usually trust my instinct, which, fortunately, has been telling me that he likes me back, though I often convince myself that he does not. For some evidence of either hypothesis, I turned to Facebook (ha!) to analyze his wallposts, which collectively support the former. Anyway, I now realize that he could've been made jealous by some of the other posts on my wall (which are total jokes, btw, and whose sarcasm probably didn't go over very well), and there were times when I thought he was making moves on other people (prompting me to question his interest level in me). I don't play the jealousy game, so I get confused. Anyway, one morning, in the midst of an all-nighter, I decided on a whim to post something on his wall (doing it in person would've created problems, since he's kinda socially awkard about handling such things), and things dramatically changed after that. A turning point was when we saw a non-Oscar worthy movie together, suggesting that the time we spent together was more important than the actual movie. This is important because I never watch movies in the theaters otherwise. The movie was Year of the Dog, and clearly, no two guys would ever see that movie just as friends, lol (jk). We ended up enjoying it. Actually, I think he enjoyed himself far too much... he was howling with laughter at some scenes . Later that night, I hugged him :), albeit with permission beforehand (yes, through Facebook, lol). I had to ask permission because I truly didn't know how he might've taken it. Clearly, I'm not being delusional when I say that what we have going on is more than a friendship??</p>