<p>hey everyone thanks..... well this girl is...... how do i say it........ well she is the kind of person that is nice to everyone, very well mannered, and very pretty, everything she says is nice or positive; she isn't mean... well i told her how i felt and she just said she is not ready for a relationship since she just got out of one, and i told her that i respect that etc, and she said she will call me or w/e if she ever wants to hang out... well any advice on how to off this "wait list'?!</p>
<p>on these convos were over... MYSPACE:(!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>Yikes, dude. That was way too fast to just let it out like that! Now, you just have to try to keep your love interest off your mind and function as though you're not expecting anything to happen with her.</p>
<p>yes, that is my plan, ahh...</p>
<p>One of my rules for relationships: If you are dude, never ever tell a girl how you feel about her FIRST. It will put her in an awkard position since you caought her off guard.... </p>
<p>Anyways, Give her some a little time and space. You said that she is a nice girl so maybe that is her way of saying that she doesnt want to date you right now. "hang out" sounds like a "lets be friends" term. Which you dont want be "just" friends</p>
<p>"waitlist".. sounds like a college word :p. Anyways, you cant make a girl like her.. you just have to provoke it. Oh yeah, just give her a little time. She just got out of a relationship, so she is seeing everything including you in a different perspective. Why not date other girls for the time being?</p>
<p>Give A little time not alot of time. Maybe until she is ready to date again...</p>
<p>yeah im pretty sure it was a bad idea telling her.. i guess time is helpful here</p>
<p>Ya wanna know how to get the girl? Don't become a love sick, clinging wuss.</p>
<p>No offense, and I didn't mean it toward you(in general) but typically this is what most guys do. If you want her, act like you don't(up to a certain degree, that is. Obviously, don't treat her bad, but don't go out of your way trying to prove your undevided love toward her either). You need to be funny, but confident; in an almost cocky way, but not obnoxious.</p>
<p>Attraction is a weird process, don't take my word for it, though; if you don't believe me go try kissing her ass, and all that other useless stuff.</p>
<p>Cheers and Goodluck :)</p>
<p>Alex</p>
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<p>wow she seems perfect! Would you consider her to be "in your league"?
You probably did reduce your chances by blurting out like that though. You'll probably have to wait a while like everyone says. I would not elect to hang out with her yet- I think once you enter the friend zone there's no escape.</p>
<p>Stop talking to her over myspace.</p>
<p>yeah that is kind of awkward in a bad way...</p>
<p>yeah im not going to do that anymore</p>
<p>dude first thing you should do is get her phone number..... doesn't mean you have to call her but if she is interested she will ask for yours</p>
<p>yah i have her phone number she has mine we've texted back a few times but nothing major</p>
<p>texting?... I only do that to my friends or when she is in a class. But thats is just me .. Anyway, with a phone number you should probably call her..</p>
<p>Oh yeah, dont call her now.. seems like a bad time.. Just let her have a little space. </p>
<p>When you are asking her out, says something like "Hey, I am going to this great concert/restaurant, wanna come?" Dont go like "wanna go out with me?" since you will put her in an awkward position again...</p>
<p>Hope I helped... Just give her a Lil time :p</p>
<p>now i think you give her space after telling her that. if i were you, i wouldn't start a conversation with her for a while. (if she starts one with you, then go with it). you've put yourself in a tough spot by not timing things so well. </p>
<p>I somewhat agree with AlexGFX. But the problem is if this girl is "above you", or slightly out of your league. If that's the case, you can't really afford to act a little cocky and play hard to get. Playing hard to get with a girl that's out of your league usually won't accomplish anything since the girl has other options.</p>
<p>yeah im gunna just not talk to her and give her space, i am good friends with her best friends so hopefully that will help somehow</p>
<p>Just spank her booty. It works every time. She'll be like damn, I like that.</p>
<p>tevan loves spankin the booty and shi**** on the chest- dam i like that girl- representin stamford</p>
<p>I agree, somewhat, MNKeeper. But "out of her league" is a point of view. If you mean in-terms of looks, that's not really a crucial part. Girls really don't put that much weight on the looks of a guy(as oppossed the the other way around, where we put a lot of weight on looks). What does this mean, then? </p>
<p>He can only be out of her league if he allows it. </p>
<p>(Example: If he acts like he's the one with the choices, it rasies him up the ladder. If, on the other hand, he tells himself she's too good for him, and that she deserves better, he will always be where he is; the friends list.</p>
<p>Believe it or not, we have it lucky. We can change to make girls attracted to us. It's much harder for the girls.</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
<p>eh, i dunno. i don't quite get your logic. If i'm understanding you correctly, a girl will like a guy simply if he acts like he's on equal footing with her. if a nerdy guy plays hard to get with a popular girl it will never work because the popular girl will never notice the guy. if a nerdy guy wants to get with a popular girl, he has to do something that makes her notice him. I agree that girls don't necessarily put a lot of emphasis on looks, but if not looks, then personality/sense of humor are a big factor. imo, it's hard to change either one of those. </p>
<p>anyway, if a guy thinks he's in the same league as a girl, that's fine. but it doesn't really matter. what matters is what the girl thinks.</p>
<p>i can sort of see where you're coming from in that playing hard to get works sometimes. but i'm just saying that the girl needs to like the guy in order for it to work. a girl won't chase a guy that she doesn't like to begin with.</p>
<p>I probably didn't state my opinion correctly, let me try again.</p>
<p>Of course if the guy is nerdy, it doesn't matter what he does, the girl(unless she likes nerds) will not pay attention. But that was my whole point, if you act like you have choices and act like you are the catch, you are no longer a nerd. </p>
<p>It's all about how you carry yourself. Again, looks are thrown out the window, I've seen hott babes with -- and I'm not exagerating -- ape ugly guys. It's all about how they composed themself, and how the girl saw that. If you feel confident, if you feel deserving and if you truly honestly think you are the catch, that's what you'll be. </p>
<p>You are what you think. In the case of perverted sex addicted guys, you know what you are. :D</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
<p>Don't get me wrong MNKeeper, I see your points and agree with everything you're saying. The point of my post is to explain what you need to do to gain attraction from the typical girl. I say typical because everyone is, in fact, different.</p>