<p>Soooooo...last night i got mortally inebriated...and my girlfreind was with me....(i don't remember this in the slightest btw)....she said i asked this girl to cuddle with me right infront of her....and yeah it's kinda an issue...she just said don't drink that much again, but it seems like something is wrong...any help on this?</p>
<p>and...today she and 2 of her friends went out to eat...and they're bein joined by these 2 guys i met last night, because one of my g/f's friends is good friends with them and hasn't seen them since she's been off at college...this makes me feel kinda akward...i was wonderin if i'm just freakin out or whether i have a valid reason to feel weird about it....i mean, i know my girl's faithful and wouldn't ever cheat on me, but still.....i'm sure plentya other guys can relate....</p>
<p>What you should feel weirdest about is the fact that you don't remember anything. That's a sign of alcoholism. I wouldn't worry about the two guys unless you REALLY did something to **** her off while you were snookered. She is probably madder than she's letting on. I know I'd be. You should definitely apologize and do something amazingly sweet to make it up to her. There's nothing worse than babysitting a sloshed date - especially if it's the first time your friends meet him.</p>
<p>well....she was drinkin too.....and i don't drink but maybe once in a blue moon....it was more the amount i had....i knew about 80% of the ppl there already.</p>
<p>I think my mouth just went outta control and i don't remember it.</p>
<p>I would do something sweet but we're kinda not allowed to date considering she's Hindu and I'm Muslim...complicated relationship where we don't get to see eachother very often. </p>
<p>I promised her i'd never do anything of the sort again, and that i was truly sorry. She knows i'd never be unfaithful to her and that i love her with every little bit of my heart, but she's just...i dunno...and i do think that whole askin the other girl to cuddle with me kinda ****ed her off...i dunno, it's just a complicated situation...i just need to figure out something to say to break the ice and get things back to normal</p>
<p>Oh my gosh, if you can drink and not feel bad then doing something sweet for her is like NOTHING man. Oh my. I can't even believe this post is coming from a "Muslim" guy. Sorry I didn't want to say anything, I really didn't..but this is too much man.</p>
<p>hmmm I don't think drinking once in the past couple of years is that much of a horrendous scar on my record......shew after last night i realized why it's looked down upon so much lol....you learn from mistakes :p</p>
<p>Definitely do something sweet for her. There are plenty of things you can do without having to physically take her out. For instance, my boyfriend and I aren't phone people so we always leave each other emails instead. An email from him means the world to me. So just leave her a sincere but not corny message/email/however you communicate.</p>
<p>sad thing is she doesn't really fall for the sweet stuff :-.....i've used it all...leavin roses and reeses mini cups on her car while she's in school so she'll have a surprise when she comes out, writing poetry to make up, bought her a gardens worth of different kinds of flowers, sang to her, burberry wallet, earrings, tiffany's ring, clothing, shoes, leavin her emails, sweet voicemail messages telling her how much i love her, apologizing for everything.....it just seems like she's burnt out on everything....sigh...i'll never understand women :(</p>
<p>ok so like....i told you my girl was goin out with her best friends and these 2 guys that one of her best friends were really close to....so she told me i couldn't go, because they were just goin out to eat and then they were goin back to one of her girl friends houses to chill and do girl things....well...i come to find out she went to one of the guy's houses, one of her best friends got drunk, she had a shot, and she just now tells me....do i have a reason to get angry? because i'm kinda heated right now....and all 3 of the girls who i'm really close with are telling me i'm freaking out....i don't know what to do! ARGH WOMEN!!!</p>
<p>Talk about haphazard relationship. Lying is not a good sign. You arent blowing it out of proportions. I would be pretty heated also as I dont like dishonesty. There is a reason why I dont get involved in long term relationships. Too much of a hassle and too much of a headache for me to deal with. </p>
<p>BTW the fact that he is a Muslim doesnt mean that he cannot get drunk and make mistakes. You see regular human beings make goofups and the fact that naf actually was honest and put an effort to amend it is a good quality. Case in point, I dont think its said in any religion that pre marital sex is good but I wonder how many college kids actually follow this?! (sarcasm) The OPs race/religion should not be a consideration in any aspects. </p>
<p>And NO the fact that he forgot what happened when drunk doesnt mean he is an alcoholic lol. </p>
<p>My advice to the OP: Talk to her if you actually care about her and straighten out these issues. It seems you are having problems with being open to each other. IF you dont care, thats fine, dump her and move on.</p>
<p>You might be an alcoholic if ...NCADD</a> Self-Test See #3. Everybody's gotta start somewhere and yes ... forgetting all or part of an evening can be an early sign of the disease even if it's your first time drinking. In this case, it sounds more like he might've just not understood how much he could handle, but it's something to consider.</p>
<p>At this point, it's probably best to tell her that you are going to give her space so that she can cool down and perhaps come to you when she's no longer mad.</p>
<p>I don't really think you should be mad at her. She didn't do anything with other guys...I mean, she went to some guy's house and had a shot? Is that what you're mad about? I think, in her mind, this is revenge, but after it, she shouldn't have those urges anymore. </p>
<p>Also, even if she's not a sweet person, she definitely notices and can appreciate the stuff you do, so don't stop!</p>
<p>ConfusedApplicant,
Wrong. Just because it happens once doesn't mean one is definitely and alcoholic, but forgetting the night before (i.e. "blacking out") has been identified as an early sign of the disease and has nothing to do with frequency. If it happens with frequency, it's pretty safe to say somebody definitely has a problem. If it happens once, it's just something to be concerned about.</p>
<p>I think you should apologize and make it very clear that you didnt mean what you said to the other girl because you wouldn't want to cuddle with anyone besides your gf (girls.. or at least i do.. love when you make them feel that special to you... like you couldnt imagine youself with anyone else because they are so wonderful and beautiful etc). you shouldnt get mad over what she did, its not like she asked a guy to do stuff with her like you asked that other girl.</p>
<p>oh yeah, and if she doesnt appreciate all those sweet gestures, than either she's really dumb or you're doing them wrong, lol</p>
<p>lol...i've used all the "sweet lines."......my girl's a big dork, but i love her to death.....i just think she's a lil burnt out on the sweetness/gestures....we made up, and things are going good now....thanx for all the help!</p>