<p>Don't send flowers! For a college-age boy, flowers give the wrong message. Funeral flowers are so expensive that they're another way of seeming involved--they will say to the girl and her family, "He must really care! He spent a fortune on flowers!" </p>
<p>Go to the store, buy a simple, inexpensive Hallmark condolence card, sign it, and mail it to her house. Address it to the family. No note, no enclosures, no flowers.</p>
<p>OK, fair enough, I agree with wackymother.</p>
<p>Yea, I think I'm going to show up for a few minutes, but not bring flowers or anything.</p>
<p>I'm not going to discuss our relationship. That thought never crossed my mind. I could go and just say sorry for the loss. Her parent's would surely be mature enough to accept that, right?</p>
<p>Adad, I've thought about volunteering, but never really looked too much into it. What do you mean too self-absorbed?</p>
<p>And I've actually been fine today. I'm just worried about how it will be when I see her for the first time. Mainly how she'll be. </p>
<p>To you that think I'm leading her along, I'm doing nothing of the sort. The last thing I want is more "I miss you" calls.</p>