Girlfriend issues

<p>MISTAKE #6: Not Getting How Attraction Works For Women</p>

<pre><code> Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...
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<p>MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks</p>

<pre><code> One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
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<p>MISTAKE #8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women</p>

<pre><code> Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
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<p>MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women</p>

<pre><code> Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
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<p>MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP</p>

<pre><code> This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.
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<p>Those are totally true!</p>

<p>Nahrafsfa,
Here's to refugees from the laws of averages, but I had the same boyfriend for two and a half years. We were very tight until he went off to college and I went to boarding school in eleventh grade. We grew apart and broke up near the end of winter break. The same thing happened with just about everybody I knew who came to school with a s/o. Same goes for almost all the couples I've known who went off to different colleges. I'm not saying it never works out, but it usually doesn't.</p>

<p>Bridget_19,
That's a heckuva sales pitch for something I don't think can be truly quantified. What's the title of the book? I'll agree with most of those except for #9. Sometimes it's cute if a guy seems awkward and it can be kinda fun to watch him scramble around after a screwup. I repeat ... SOMETIMES. (Getting out my "I <3 Nerds" t-shirt. hehehe</p>

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A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.</p>

<p>Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.</p>

<p>I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.</p>

<p>And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

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<p>Hahahaha, so true! Thanks, Bridgette_19.</p>

<p>someone wasted half of their day attempting to explain something that no male will ever understand as long as he lives...</p>

<p>Why are girls so weird. So...now that I'm completely heartbroken, what's the best way to go about things now. We were close friends before I asked her to date me, and part of the reason she broke up with me was because she felt so uncomfortable that she was feeling guilty about not even able to be a friend to me anymore.</p>

<p>I still love her, but I don't want to stop talking to her completely either.</p>

<p>get ready for a breakup. This is truly a classic approach to say "face it: im really not that into you".</p>

<p>Depends on what you are feeling. If you could, right now, be friends with her without it being weird, then tell her that, when she is ready, you would like to resume the friendship. If that is not the case (which I suspect that it would be), then tell her that you genuinely care about her, value her friendship, but that, right now, you know you could not be friends with her without wanting her back. Then tell her that you'll give her a call in a month or so to check in (assuming that you are out of school and thus not seeing her daily) and you'll work things out from there.</p>

<p>"MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women</p>

<p>Now I'm going to blow your mind...</p>

<p>A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.</p>

<p>Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.</p>

<p>I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.</p>

<p>And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!</p>

<p>And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...</p>

<p>Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.</p>

<p>If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.</p>

<p>And you KNOW it.</p>

<p>It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom."</p>

<p>I think women for the most part are more powerful when it comes to reading minds, but I do not think that is an absolute. The problem that I have found with women is they do not like a guy that understands them TOO much. And what I mean by that is someone who understands their strengths and weaknesses and knows how to bring the best or worst out of them. Women feel very vulnerable mentally around me(ive had them tell me that) and for that reason some of my relationships have been short lived. </p>

<p>I think its kind of stereotypical to label women as this amazing sex of mind readers...</p>

<p>Yeah. At times, "male intuition" does seem to be an oxymoron, but there are exceptions. ;)</p>

<p>Why does everyone always make it out to be the guy's fault? I mean seriously....girls have their problems as well...for example...they hate admitting when they're wrong, and they'll argue with you constantly even though what they're saying may make little sense at all....they freak out on a guy for something he does, but if they ever did the same thing and the guy freaked out on them, the guy is "being stupid and controlling," they're rarely open about what they're thinking...they expect the guy to figure it out for himself and if he doesn't he's insensitive....and they expect you to know EXACTLY what to do, as ryan pointed out......which is totally not right...how can you know exactly what to do when women are so hard to read in the first place?....i've met girls who'll flirt with you constantly, but they end up not liking you....i've met girls who act no different than anyone else towards you, and they end up wanting you badly....TOO complicated....</p>

<p>so at times..."female sensativity" seems like an oxymoron.</p>

<p>Girls also like to lie to you. Even if it makes you feel better, I hate it when I know I'm getting fed ********.</p>

<p>Also, nahrafsfa, are you a guy or a girl?</p>

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Why does everyone always make it out to be the guy's fault?

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BECAUSE IT IS!!! :p jk</p>

<p>I think a lot of what you're talking about comes down to the general difference in the ways the sexes perceive things and communicate. Bleh ... I've gotta get to rehearsal and don't have time to elaborate, but you might wanna check out Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. It has its flaws, but there's a lot of truth in it.</p>

<p>i'm a guy...</p>

<p>don't get me wrong, I love my g/f to death, but she's shown me many faults of women...but...i must admit...the happiness outweighs the hardship</p>

<p>wow nahrafsfa, I know what you mean.</p>

<p>I always think, "Why can't this girl just tell me what the problem is? I'm not into this 'you should know already crap'" </p>

<p>Save me time and energy and just voice your concerns.</p>

<p>And I hate how its always MY fault. Last time I checked we were both humans.</p>

<p>I love this last post. It is crisp, clear, and right to the point. One thing though...</p>

<p>As far as attraction is concerned, is it the face or the body that a women looks for? Let's say we have two men. A guy with an okay face but with a herculean body vs. a guy with a handsome face with an okay body. </p>

<p>Who, might I ask, would the lady choose? The first or the second man?</p>

<p>The second man hands down</p>

<p>Which brings me to another point...how much do looks actually matter?
Some girls actually say that they don't care about what a guy looks like as long as he has a great personality. I have one word to say to that, and I think you all know what that is.</p>

<p>Assuming all else being equal, I'd go with the second guy. I could whip him into shape. ;)</p>

<p>Looks don't really matter that much though it would be lying to say they don't count at all. A "great personality" is all in the eye of the beholder, too. To me, it's more about intangibles ... "Aura" if you will.</p>

<p>I think I'm just bitter because I'm ugly.</p>