<p>Am I the only girl who is sick of these silly 'nice guys'/unshaven geeks who seem to be everywhere?</p>
<p>I'm taking AP Compsci and I am the ONLY girl in the whole class. The guys in there are, no nicer way to put it, complete and utter nerds with pocket-protectors and all. I wouldn't mind this at all... if they just left me alone. I'm doing my work and every single day someone tries to talk to me throughout the entire class, asks me if I need help (when I'm clearly doing JUST FINE by myself), or breathes down my neck while I'm working.</p>
<p>This seems to be everywhere. I'm not hideous looking and I like to think I'm decently smart but this attracts those dreaded 'nice guys' with an entitlement complex. Anyone else get this? They have minimal self-esteem and take poor care of themselves but they seem to think that because I'm not a slut or bimbo or something that I should give them a chance and then bemoan how girls never go for 'nice guys'. </p>
<p>At the risk of sounding like I have excessive hubris, does anyone else get this sort of treatment? I've already told some friends and they think I'm being arrogant and should give them a chance. Yuck. </p>
<p>And inevitably, 90% of the guys who saw this clicked on it.</p>
<p>There are a few classes where I'm the only girl who's not a complete geek so I get all the guys coming over to me. They're good guys and I want to be friends with them, but they have no confidence talking to girls. It's always awkward on their part so I use humor to open them up.</p>
<p>I'm not gorgeous but I'm not ugly either. I used to model (which is REALLY awkward when people find out because it is the exact opposite of my personality) and when the guys one of my classes last year (forgot which it was) found out, it was like they were amazed that a model would give them the time of day. I'm like "Dude, I modeled 4 years ago in California. That DOESN'T make me a model. I'm just me."</p>
<p>Little rant but I know what you mean. The worst part is that when they're around you, they can't make a coherent sentence. It's like, I'M NOT POISONOUS!</p>
<p>Actually, no, I don't see this extreme at my small private prep school. There were a couple who struggled to fully mature (not in a perve way) ... but now, being seniors, are totally normal... I should know, I'm dating one of those blossomed birds.
Girls also have the academic stronghold so they are the ones who would overwhelm the guys in the toughest classes- and usually even dominate the athletics from state-level respect.
And, yes, I know my grade through and through (unfortunately) since we've (for the most part) gone through middle and high school together.</p>
<p>Nope, can't say I do. I go to an all girls school. There are no boys to be seen except for occasionally the teenaged son of the tech guy and the little toddlers running around.</p>
<p>There's one guy I would have given a chance, but he asked his friend to find out if I liked him. No offense, but when I have random people I haven't talked to since freshmen year come up to me and constantly ask me what I think of him, it bothers me. If he had the confidence to ask me himself, then that's cool, but cmon...I can't stand guys without confidence...There's actually two others guys like that too that liked me....Wow. Do I just attract these people? O_o...I sound mean now, I guess. I don't know...</p>
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If you're attractive, you'll probably be attracting males of all types, not just "hideous" ones or whatever. </p>
<p>And if they're bothering you, tell them to shut up and leave you alone. </p>
<p>I don't really see what the problem is.
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<p>Except that I have told them and they still do it. It isn't just one or two people, it's a lot of different people. I won't flatter myself and say all of them are madly in love with me, but a lot of people have expressed a creepy sort of interest.</p>
<p>You misunderstand my point, I'm not so shallow that I would reject someone because they're not model-perfect but some could at least comb their hair and put deoderant on. It's more the attitude and lame personality that is unattractive.</p>
<p>i am not very smart, so it doesn't happen to me.
but my younger sister who is very brainy and rather pretty and tops her maths and science class has this all the time. Wierd, shy guys call her to just tell her the new maths activity or science project. she is like- yeah i was in the class too- i know!
The guy who comes second in her maths class is this small shy boy who has his hair combed back-he keeps trying to talk to her or get close to her- she too is not sure how to politely tell him off.</p>
<p>Confidence: the single most important trait to winning a woman's heart. 'tis so very true.</p>
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I wouldn't mind this at all... if they just left me alone.
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<p>There is a strong correlation between women being b<strong><em>hes and how attractive they are (or at least how attractive they think of themselves as being) because women have to fend off a lot of guys. It's an adaptive behavior. The OP sounds really nice, but is clearly getting annoyed. Eventually, she'll act b</em></strong>hy, if she hasn't already. And who could blame her?</p>
<p>This may be a little different for you, but at least in my area AP computer Science classes tend to be small because there is not much demand for the course. Therefore the stereotypical nerds that are really into Computers take the course. Unfortunately, this also means that their social ungracefulness tends to be stereotypical as well. It is most likely a lack of variety of the individuals taking the course that results in everyone seemingly acting in this similar manner.</p>
<p>What I'd suggest trying first, if you have not already, is to make sure it has been made perfectly clear that you do not need help in a polite manner. I know you've done that part already but make it clear that if you need help, you'll ask for it. Try to remain calm, yet assertive. I think that acting rudely towards them will only result in provoking them to act negatively towards you. If there comes a time when you do need their help, they won't give it to you.</p>
<p>You could also try then being honest try to calmly add that they don't need to ask every class period as well. If it goes further, you just need to try to be blunt and tell them that what they are doing is annoying you and that you would prefer that they'd leave you alone. The calmer the better so that it isn't taken negatively or make you seem like you are being mean to them, just telling them how you feel.</p>
<p>I know it is very hard to try to remain calm while frustrated or upset, but letting your emotions get the better of you while talking to them may make later encounters worse. They can't really call you any explicative or even justify acting negatively towards you as long as you never got upset, cursed at them, or insulted them.</p>
<p>Hahahhaha oh my goodness.
I know exactly how you feel. I am 1 of 2 girls in my AP physics class AND AP Calc BC.</p>
<p>Yes they are quite annoying sometimes but they pretty much get the idea that I am not interested. They somehow thought they had a chance when they heard that I used to date the captain of the robotics/engineering team at a prep school when I used to live in California (I really didn't know he was a robotics captn until it was too late!! lol). I am good friends with some of them but I basically treat them all as acquaintances.</p>
<p>There was one that used to bother me a lot but I let him down slowly. I wouldn't contact him at all over the summer and haven't talked to him at all this year...haha</p>
<p>man i hate high school guys. either they are overly confident and think they own the world, or they are shy and sometimes creepy</p>
<p>be nice to the shy ones though- they'll grow up sooner or later, and then it will all be worth it....</p>
<p>but about the whole unshaven thing? WHY DO GUYS GROW CHINSTRAPS?!?! it never ceases to amaze me that there are teenage guys who grow that hideous facial hair, and then expect girls to be attracted to it. it seems like every guy at my school has tried that look at one point or another- IT NEVER WORKS</p>