<p>I also can relate a bit of a similar story. My brother’s child goes to a very well regarded university. She is a very bright student. She is in a specialized degree program that was very hard to get into. At this juncture, she is a rising senior. Like your son, she was diagnosed with ADD toward the very end of HS (well, your son was diagnosed much younger I guess). Anyway, I’m starting to forget the details but in freshmen and soph year, she was getting A’s in her degree program but I think she flunked a class or two outside her major and also had an incomplete or two and my brother was gonna pull the plug and not let her go back. He was going to do it right away like your H wants to do. He didn’t want to fund that. They were very frustrated with the D for not seeking help and so on and so forth. I think she may even have skipped some classes in the ones she didn’t care about (again, had A’s in her major). They did give her a final warning of sorts like i am suggesting for your son, another semester to either get decent grades or they were no longer going to pay. They also said that she would have to pay to make up the classes she failed (she may have completed the incomplete ones). She may have to take a class in summer to make that up, not sure. She did go abroad last semester. To my knowledge, she is doing OK now. But they got very stern with her about the situation. But they did give “another chance.” I urged the “one more chance” too and hope you can do that with your son. Your son at least sounds like he wants to turn it around. My niece often made excuses. She loves her program which is the main part of her coursework and she didn’t care about the other courses even though she is very strong in those subjects!</p>
<p>Defend your son, of course!!! DH is an adult - and so are you. Please get your back up and take a stand against DH’s stubborness. Your son should be allowed to go ahead and do the study abroad, and stretch his wings and his world view. The last thing he needs is to be back home with your husband’s “intransigence, inflexibility and perfectionism,” living a life cut off from his friends and professors. I really, strongly believe that you are making a mistake if you give in to your husband’s demands. :eek: JMHO!</p>
<p>I’m not giving in – I’m getting steamrollered.</p>
<p>theoretical – that makes me very sad to hear. However, with a quarter system one semester at home when S was gone this summer will not be the end of the world.</p>
<p>I don’t think catastrophizing anything helps.</p>
<p>If he goes on or stays home things will probably work out. </p>
<p>It’s too bad you feel so steamrolled. Hugs.</p>