<p>Having difficulty with workload is part of the experience. This was my first year at boarding school (a good school with a good reputation, though not spectacular), and I didn’t have any difficulty with the work, so I ended up bored and wishing I had gone to a more challenging/demanding school.</p>
<p>I know I’m a little late, but ultima88, THANK YOU so much for your posts. After a few of my comments, I can’t really talk, but you’re exactly right: the way many people banter back and forth about schools they really know nothing about is childish. This forum is for asking questions and getting answers, and more often than not, “CCers” lose sight of that purpose.
Thank you for bringing everyone back to reality. Though this may not be the most appropriate time to say this, enjoy Exeter.</p>
<p>I think Ultima’s message was valid, but his means of conveying this message (bragging about siblings’ colleges, own prep school acceptances, Exeter’s SUICIDE rate) absolutely ruined it. Admittedly, I was one of the people to whom Ultima was referring - one who held the idea that at Exeter there is a culture of patting oneself on the back for the workload and stress involved. And you know what? The OP only confirmed this belief for me.</p>
<p>Amazing how opinions change after you get into a school. Before I think most or all of us would’ve loved to get into exeter and now all some of the andover guys and others can do is bash it? Just give it a rest for godsake.</p>
<p>Hey hey hey, I’m not bashing. I’m just giving Ultima’s online conduct a little bit of a critique. If I were him, I’d try to represent Exeter a little better. His bragging and ranting does nothing for Exeter’s online presence. That’s all I’m saying.</p>
<p>Of course I would have liked to get into Exeter. Who wouldn’t hope for the ideal 100% success rate?</p>
<p>Exeter is hard and so is most prepschools</p>
<p>Thanks for that contribution, prettismartie.</p>
<p>Jasmyn, if you read his original post on his original thread, he states that he’s spent three years of his life at Exeter.</p>
<p>Lol istoleyournose, I highly doubt Toms opinion changed from before acceptances and after. No one is bashing anywhere…and it didn’t really sound like bashing. I laugh when I read that…because at no time did Tom or myself have Exeter has a top choice.</p>
<p>So when people say opinions changed after acceptances I simply laugh, I think you’ve just become more defensive. Which is understandable. Because now all of a sudden everything is bashing.</p>
<p>Not saying it has. i’m saying that now, i thought unarguably, there has been a lot of negative talking about exeter. Whereas before there was much less and most people would be grateful to get into exeter. Are you seriously denying that the talk about exeter became more negative after march 10? Thats a tough case.</p>
<p>No because before march 10th people had better things to worry about than Exeter…now with a different exeter student popping up every week conversation starts. I mean you can’t stop people from stating opinions. All talk has been reasonable.</p>
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<li><p>Exeter FA…that was something you can’t really deny…lots of W/L people definitely are curious about that.</p></li>
<li><p>Nerds…that was most just joking. And I didn’t contribute to that, because frankly, I just don’t care.</p></li>
<li><p>Talk about sad/whiny Exeter students…this was because like 3 students have popped up complaining about how they hate it and allll the work, then doing a 180 and defending the school.</p></li>
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<p>Talk didn’t just come out of nowhere…I doubt anyone cares that much to just start “bashing” exeter, it’s simply opinions that stem from different situations. As much as some incoming Exeter students might think.</p>
<p>As always, Mpicz, I’m gonna have to end an argument with you by just saying I disagree. Why do all my conversations with you involve arguing? Spooky…</p>
<p>When I was in high school I saw next to someone on a plane who was a student at Exeter. He was a nice guy. Some people wear their privilege well and some people don’t.</p>
<p>Why do you think everything is an argument? Do you know what a discussion is…like you know…this is a discussion board. If you can’t discuss without thinking somethings an argument than good luck at Exeter. I mean if you can’t defend your point then don’t make one in the first place…you probably will learn that lesson quickly once you get there.</p>
<p>True insulting me could be considered discussion. Aren’t you harknessy. The reason i stopped arguing was that I didn’t feel like there was any hope of convincing you of anything when you refuse to even admit that there has been some anti exeter bias. Can this just be over now? Arguing or in your words, discussing, is really tiresome.</p>
<p>My point was there’s anti every school…people have said things about Hotchkiss, Deerfield, SPS…everywhere. There’s been more Exeter for the reason I stated above. Stop crying over a little internet board about “exeter bashing” and just ignore it (even though in this case there really hasn’t recently been much to ignore). I mean no ones forcing you to read it…if people were constantly insulting SPS, I just wouldn’t waste my time with them because it’s NOT worth it. So don’t waste your time and mine.</p>
<p>Yea the “Argument” can stop…take a rest. I know this may be a little too much for you to handle. Sorry about that. ;)</p>
<p>I’m still confused about his first post though - he said something along the lines of “I’ve spent three years at Exeter. We’ve won at blah blah blah, we’ve done blah blah blah, but don’t send your kids here because the pain outweighs the benefit.”</p>
<p>I mean, that was like his first post - but yes, I, too, did read his conflicting post stating he was applying as a PG - so I don’t really get it. Maybe he’s… ■■■■■■■■… Because he doesn’t seem to have his story straight.</p>
<p>And thanks, Jasmyn, for getting your 4803957897th account deleted back there so it looks like I’m talking to myself ;)</p>
<p>But yes, please, let’s have a discussion - after all, isn’t that what Harkness is all about?</p>
<p>mymymy…what a discussion (or argument, as the case may be). It looks like a lot of people are talking to themselves…could anyone fill me in on what I missed? Because I really don’t feel right about commenting when I haven’t read EVERY post.</p>
<p>There’s really not much to it, Izzy. Just the standard, tired, old “Exeter is the HARDEST and most EMOTIONALLY STRAINING school” argument. Don’t bite my head off for saying that, all!</p>
<p>lol…so for a comment now:</p>
<p>While I don’t think that ANYONE would say that Exeter is not hard or emotionally straining, I do think that part of Exeter’s culture is to stress/boast about the admittedly daunting workload, though whether it is harder than other schools’ or not is questionable. That said, ultima88’s argument devolved into “childish” bickering, and his/her story seems flawed, so I am inclined to believe that (s)he is a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>Whoa, who’s Chedva? Whoever he or she is, he or she has the power to edit my comments… My apologies to the mods if that piece that was removed from my prior post constituted talking about moderation as I believe that doing so is a violation of the terms of service. My bad…</p>
<p>Yes, that’s exactly what I thought - it’s part of the culture. To each his own, but if it’s true that Exeter is so much “harder” than other schools, then why are its college matriculations no significantly differentiated from those of other schools? Needless to say, its matriculation stats are insane - but if it were really that much more challenging in every way (as certain students like to say) then why aren’t its stats ahead of all others?</p>
<p>In conclusion, yes - I believe it must be part of the Exonian culture. Fair enough. I’m sure most schools have their own little idiosyncrasies.</p>