Going into college: How long does it take you to find your real friends?

<p>I know the day i step into college, i'll be making friends right and left. But how long does it take for you to create or "find" your circle of true friends?</p>

<p>There isn't a solid answer anyone can give you. I had one circle of close friends during the first few months of my freshman year, then another group that sprung up around Thanksgiving, and a group that was constant and remains constant. The thing about friends--and people in general--is that they continually change, just like you do. The people you believe to be your 'real, true friends' one day might not be the same people you consider your 'real, true friends' to be a month later.</p>

<p>^ thank you URichmond2010</p>

<p>100 views and only 1 reply?... honestly?</p>

<p>First semester freshman year I wasn't concerned with figuring out who would be my best friends, everything was too new for that. Perhaps mid-way through second semester I formed more of a core group of friends, but as I have only just finished my freshman year, it's possible that my group of core friends could change over the next few years.</p>

<p>Well, I've been really good friends with a couple people since second semester freshman year, and hopefully they are the ones that will be my best friends for life. I have some friends I've known since then who are not as good of friends now, but we still hang out and such. I have friends from an organization I'm in, some that I've only met recently, and others that I've known a couple years (and some of them just graduated! eek!). We hang out outside of the organization sometimes. There are some people I'm no longer friends with because we either just aren't close anymore or we had a falling out. </p>

<p>Point is: you meet new people all the time, and you may develop a close friendship with someone outside of your normal group of friends and start hanging with them and their friends more than your regular group. However, this friendship may wane as time goes on, or your friendship with your other friends may wane. It all depends on the circumstances. You can't be BFF with everyone.</p>

<p>Oh yeah, can someone give me advices for us that attending Community College and transferring? It's would be hard for us to find a core of good friends when we get to the four years college as a junior because most people, by then, already have a good core of themselves after what they establish during freshmen and sophomore year. Any advice how to be in the group?</p>

<p>I feel like I'm making friends out of conveinence rather than anything else.. My friends are people that I like but not people that I'm like- OMG I have to be friends with you. But whatever, that's kinda how it goes.</p>

<p>took me until second semester. first semester i had a group of friends but they were really of convience and i could see that i didnt really have a place in their group and didnt even like half of them anyway. branched out to aquaintances second semester and some of them became close friends.</p>

<p>so excited for next year to get to hang out with them everyday again. however, since i had that little switchover between semesters i kind of got completely ****ed for housing. living with a girl who im friends with but not close by any means, 3 of her friends, one other girl whos friends wit hthem but not close, and 2 other girls that are really good friends, and me. so its kind of a ragtag group but it should work out. at least ill ahve somewhere to go to if i cant stand my roommates.</p>

<p>As a graduating senior, I will tell you that you will change friends almost every semester because of different classes, new/dropped activities, and housing situation. Everyone grows up at different rate so people dump each other when they want to move on to something else and their friends don't want to yet. Friendships are always evolving. The most important thing is that five or ten years from now, you should look back and look at your friend from college and consider yourself very, very lucky to be one of the few "chosen" ones that s/he chose to keep you in his/her life. I have met hundreds of people in the last four years but only a slim minority stay in touch and actually want to hang out when I'm in their area.</p>

<p>Just focus on meeting people and you'll click with some. Will you guys be together to graduate together? Maybe, maybe not. It all depends on how your interests, living situations, and lifestyles change. Some of my closest friends and I have taken separate paths but we have our history so it's quite hard to let go and we just accept and support each other for what we want to do. I mean, you'd just take one look at us and our profiles and wonder, "Oh my god, how the heck did you guys meet?!"</p>

<p>I'm a year away from graduating, and I didn't find my "circle" of friends until Fall of last year when I transferred. It took though until the Spring semester for us to solidify ourselves as a group of friends, and I can guarantee it's only because our major is small and we all seem to follow each other to the same classes. My first two years or so of school, I talked to people, some on a regular basis, but I didn't make what I would consider a true friend until last semester. (That last part was more for bjt too- I came from a CC and while not impossible (I know some people in my major who came from CC's and had a great core group of friends) but for me it was harder to make friends there because of the varying maturity levels.) Again, I made more and closer friends after I transferred but again: it could be because my major is small.</p>

<p>I'm coming from a CC as well and it wasn't really a place where you make lifelong friends. I mean, going into it everyone already has their own life and group of friends from hs or work but I did meet a lot of great people just I would consider them more of acquaintances.</p>

<p>I sort of narrowed my circle of friends sophomore year. Freshman year, I had lots of acquaintances, including (almost) all of the people who are now make up my circle of best friends. I was friendly with a lot of people. Summer after freshman year, it became obvious who were going to be my best friends, because those are the people I wanted to keep in touch with and talked to even when none of us were at school. Sophomore year the distinction between great friend and casual friend just naturally became a little more clear.</p>

<p>As long as you are open minded, you'll be making good friends through senior year. College is similar to real life in that you keep making friends, you don't just hang around with the same clique. </p>

<p>College also isn't the last time you'll make good friends. Due to geographical moves and changes of interest, you'll move on from some friends you made in college, and will find new friends who match your current interests.</p>

<p>I met them before school started (orientation) but it took me 2 months to realize who they were.</p>

<p>I met most of the swim team before school started on a recruiting trip and they have been my core group of friends ever since. First semester I also became really good friends with the people on my floor, and we hung out a lot well into second semester. Although I still consider some of them good friends, I ended up drifting apart from them second semester because I pledged a fraternity and became closer friends with them. I'm still closest with the swim team though.</p>