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My daughter is at school at an Ivy in the Northeast; she was astonished and appalled at the attitude toward Asians displayed by some of her classmates, both behind their backs and to their faces
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<p>This can’t be true. After all, we’ve always heard that NE schools are so open-minded and accepting. ;)</p>
<p>We’ve all heard the stories of non-Asian students walking into a class that’s majority Asian students and then dropping the class immediately. Stereotyping plus fear of competition.</p>
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Ok…yes that happens…especially in Calif. But that’s not because of some hatred; it’s just a fear that a class full of Asian students often means a whole bunch of super-smarty-pants. And, when you look at the last names of the NMFs in Calif, Asian surnames predominate…so the assumption that a classroom full of Asian students in a good school will have a lot of brainy kids, isn’t an “out-there” assumption. :)</p>
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<p>Sadly those two emotions aren’t so far apart. </p>
<p>Well, when you cut off my sentence like that…</p>
<p>If I was in some recipe cook-off and I walked into a room with a bunch of French cooks, I’d fear being inadequate…but not anywhere close to hatred…not even a little bit. </p>
<p>Simple solution: “Hey, are you guys smart Asians or dumb Asians?”</p>
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<p>is just perpetually a stereotype. Just what is the fear? that White kids are dumber than Asians?</p>
<p>Kidding aside, the fear is not that white kids are dumber than Asians, but that Asian kids are hard workers (or, more pejoratively, “grade-grubbers”) who will bust the curve. Like many stereotypes, there is an element of truth in this one.</p>
<p>The mere fact of living in a dorm when you have been living with your parents all your life will be a culture shock. </p>
<p>Moving to a southern state will add some local flavor to the fundamental shock of the college transition, but no matter where you go you will have some significant adjusting to do. And that adjusting is good for you. </p>
<p>Challenge yourself with new people and new situations while you are young and your mind is fresh and malleable. Consider it part of your education. </p>
<p>The schools you are considering are two of the finest in the country. Don’t let mom & dad’s prejudices about their locations preclude you from considering them as options. I agree that a family campus visit is one of the best ways you can all dispel the myths and start making decisions based on the realities.</p>
<p>A key factor in how much one likes their college is if they have a happy or reasonable room-mate situation, or if there is a terrible room-mate. My one dau can tolerate more than another; one dau is in a suite with a gal that shouldn’t be so needy, self-centered, and inconsiderate (she is the middle child of 5), but she is an awful room-mate. Thankfully with individual bedrooms, less contact and the other 3 get along great.</p>