<p>I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. He is currently a freshman at a university on the east coast, and I'm a senior on the west coast. Against all odds, we've had a great year together and are stronger than ever. The issue is... I am going to a college that is about a 3 hour flight from his school, and am not sure how I feel about going to college with a boyfriend. He's such a big part of my life, and I really do love him, but I worry that my identity is too tied into him and kind of want to find out who I am WITHOUT him. On the other hand, we have such a great, meaningful relationship, and I would never want to jeopardize it. I really need him in my life, but if I decide to break up with him, we wouldn't be able to talk much because it would be too painful. What have been your experiences with this issue? It's so different from the typical "going to college with boyfriend" issue because we've already made it through one freshman year and truly proven ourselves. Any thoughts, advice, anecdotes? Thanks.</p>
<p>zzzzzzzzzzzzz, just do a search on the other million+ threads on this topic</p>
<p>Yeah and honestly, do you really think that people on a forum can give you any meaningful input? It's a decision that you should make based on your relationship with your boyfriend and how the long distance part of it affects your life, not what people on a website say.</p>
<p>wont work. break up and experience other people. you meet great people all around in college.</p>
<p>Yeah agreed, break up. Your relationship might seem very fulfilling now, but once you spend weeks apart it really, really wears you down.</p>
<p>My bf of 3 years is in grad school at NYC and I'm at UNC and we made it work through my freshman year of college. So you might as well try to make it work if that's what you really want, but if you have any doubts.....any doubts at all....you should just break up, there will be plenty of other boys you'll want to hang out with and possibly get to know it that way at school. I can speak from experience and say that your relationship will most likely mean less and less to you as the year goes on unless your connection is stronger than the majority of couples. </p>
<p>Good luck</p>
<p>A three-hour flight? Are you really anticipating flying to visit him often? That'd be expensive and difficult, to say the least.</p>
<p>I'm not saying you shouldn't try if you really want to - any relationship can work out with enough work - but don't have illusions on flying to visit.</p>
<p>theres always driving or the train, which might take an entire day.</p>
<p>The simple fact that you are even thinking about breaking up means that the correct answer is to break up. Just get it done with so that you can both move on with your life. You are going to move into such a new and different part of your life that you will likely find that your old BF is irrelevent.</p>
<p>Well, the only reason I exist today is because my parents made a long-distance relationship work for four years while they were in college. So call me biased, but you shouldn't break up because of what "might" happen. Make it last as long as you can.</p>
<p>Okay, TheFrog91, that's silly. What if the only reason I exist is because one of my parents split up a long-distance relationship and then met my other parent at university? My advice would be break up ASAP!</p>
<p>The plural of anecdote is not data.</p>
<p>You don't have to break up. Just agree to take a break, and you'll know later what you want to do.</p>
<p>So you've already spent a year apart? Well if you've already done that and you're now unsure about staying together just because you're going to college then perhaps you should break up. </p>
<p>And, not to sound cynical, but you can't be sure that he was faithful to you while he was away at college just because you were in high school, it also doesn't sound like you think you would be faithful at college either, so just break up! If it was meant to be, then you could always get back together again. Let's face it, high school romances don't last 99% of the time.</p>