Going To School With A Significant Other

<p>So I and my g/f want to go to the same school outside the state of Florida; both of us are juniors (Class of 2007), both of us very good students (top 10% of class, 4.0+ GPA weighted, I've got a perfect composite ACT and she'll be in the 30s)...any suggestions on what we can, can't, should, and/or shouldn't do?</p>

<p>I think you should be careful not to chose colleges based on where the other is going to go. If you both apply and get into the same university and that university happens to be a great fit for both of you, that's ok. But to both go to a school that isn't a good fit for you just so that you can be together isn't wise. </p>

<p>I recommend you each conduct your college search independently and then, once you have come up with a final list of universities that fit your personality and interests, compare the list of school you will apply to to see if there are any overlaps.</p>

<p>Ya, Alexandre has a point.. but still.
I think it's a good idea for you to go somewhere with ur girlfriend if u really care for her. Long range relationships usually don't work, and if u love her enough... I don't think u want it to end.</p>

<p>I know I sound corny and all, but that's the truth. lol. Sometimes, life is just more important than college (but don't end up going to a community college or anything).</p>

<p>I don't know any of ur other stats or ecs, but I would say that u both have near guaranteed shots at top 20 colleges. (don't take what I say for granted though)</p>

<p>GoldenR, as a parent I'd strongly encourage you to follow Alexandre's advice. Your college experience is just that..."yours". You need to ask yourself some hard questions and figure out what types of schools will be a good fit for you.</p>

<p>I have a college sophomore daughter who has dated her bf since 8th grade. When college search time came around, it became apparent that they were searching for different types of schools. I advised both of them that if they "compromised" on this issue...one or the other would potentially regret the decision and wonder "what if...?" They ended up choosing different schools in different states and with cell phones and whatnot, it's worked out for them. I'm not saying it's easy or anything...but they are committed and making it work. </p>

<p>But in the end, it's all about choices and at this time in your life, you should NOT be limiting them...nor should your girlfriend. Like Alexandre said, if it <em>happens</em> to be the same university on both your lists, so be it. But I'd encourage each of you to develop and research your own college lists.</p>

<p>Sounds like you have a bright future ahead. Best wishes to you!</p>

<p>I'm going to agree with Alexandre. Do try to make a list of "fits" for both of you, and try your best to make sure that you both have a school that will work for both of you.</p>

<p>That said, I cannot imagine how much less enjoyable my time at UCLA would've been without my girlfriend around.</p>

<p>You might want to expand your options a bit. </p>

<p>Going to the same school is not your only option; going to different schools in the same city could also work and might even be a better option if the two of you have very different academic tastes.</p>

<p>Have you looked at colleges in Boston, for example? There's something there for practically everybody.</p>

<p>I know that, but there's this: I'm a legacy at Princeton and Brown (can't complain about that facet of my parents); she's not. I still want to get the best education I can, debt being near-unavoidable in any case, and those would appear to be my best HYPS etc. shots. She, on the other hand, would be just another qualified white female...so there's that, too.</p>

<p>And I know that same-city colleges might be something of value, so, considering I'm a creative writing/journalism/education person and she could be anything from biology to women's studies...any suggestions?</p>

<p>And, further, we're both very much liberals and very much interested in a city vibe.</p>