Going to transfer and live at home?

College Search & Selection
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So I decided to switch my major this semester from a vet tech major to a social work major. This means I’m going to have to get a masters which means I’ll have to spend more money. I’m already paying a lot for college and dorming (like everyone is) and I’m planning to maybe transfer. In thinking of going to a school closer to home and live at home so I won’t have to pay for housing and I’ll be paying instate tuition which will be cheaper, too. I just don’t want to be in a lot of debt, but I don’t know if that’s exactly what I want to do yet.

When I was a senior in high school I didn’t want to live at home while in college because I didn’t want it to feel like I was still in high school. The school I go to isn’t too far from home, but it’s far enough away that I have to dorm. If I come live at home and go to college I’m scared people might think I’m some type of hypocrite or something. I also love being able to go home. Honestly I’m in my dorm now wishing I was home. If I come back to live at home people will think I can’t handle living on my own and I need to come back and have my parents take care of me, which isn’t true.

My school is also kinda boring. It isn’t a party school and it’s in a small town with not much to do. I also don’t have a car here so I can’t go anywhere. If I’m home I’ll have access to a car and have more stuff to do. Also a lot of friends of mine go to the school I’m thinking of going to and I would love to be able to see them more.

I feel bad because my parents have spent so much money on college and stuff for my dorm and it’s just going to go to waste. I can’t use all my dorm stuff if I’m living at home and I don’t know what we are going to do with it. I mean parents have said they would love to have come back home, but I still feel a little bad.

The final and biggest reason I feel bad is because I have a roommate. She has been my roommate since freshman year (we are sophomores now). If I transfer she’s going to have to find a new roommate and I’ll feel awful. We get along so well and I don’t want her to be mad at me. My mom has told me I have to do what’s right for me and that if we are meant to be friends we will stay friends and I know she’s right but I still feel really bad. And I don’t know how I’m going to tell her that I’m possibly going to transfer.

I’m sorry this is so long I just had to get that out and was just hoping I could get some advice.
Thank you! :slight_smile:

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I think you’re thinking too much about what other people think.

Do what is best for you. This is the time in your life to do that.

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Your mom is right, you have to do what is right for you. And social work, while a very worthwhile profession, has very low pay. You really need to minimize your debt and save for grad school if you are going to go down that path.

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Right now you’re just exploring and thinking about the idea. I don’t think you have to tell your roommate yet. Wait until you’ve made a decision, and then tell her. She’ll be able to find another roommate - she found you, right?

Even if people even remember what you said in high school, they’re unlikely to care much. I agree that you shouldn’t think so much about whether people will think you are a hypocrite or incapable of caring for yourself. People change, and needs changed, and you can just say that - “My needs changed.”