If you need to keep you net cost at $30,000 or less, then you need to look at schools where that will BE your net cost. You may have to make some compromises if you really don’t want to go to your instate public U…and you want to go OOS. Maybe the money will be there for,you…and maybe it won’t.
I personally think you need to figure out your priorities…if finances are at the top of your list, you need to consider finances first. Look at many options out there…starting with your instate options.
You may find these will work just fine.
Getting your net cost to $30,000 at a private university with a COA of $65000 or so is going to be a challenge.