<p>just got the letter, got into my safeties' safeties' safety
and now i feel bad cuz i know i'll never go there
is this just me- or does anyone feel as if they're taunting the less selective schools</p>
<p>I laughed at my safety's acceptance.</p>
<p>Then I sent in my deposit in May.</p>
<p>If you honestly have NO intention going there, why did you even bother applying?</p>
<p>I felt bad when I got into Bard, I guess. I had no urgings to go to a school so free-form, I only applied because my college counselor told me it was a great school. I just hope I didn't take away a spot from someone who actually wanted it.</p>
<p>^to the OP: would you have rather been rejected from your safety?</p>
<p>Listen to Duper!</p>
<p>Duper's post seconded</p>
<p>my d doesn't want to go to her safety!! they keep sending her letters and emails she ignore it completely! she has to turn back the acceptance into the honor program signed before the dateline but that too she ignored!! i don't want her to be disappointed in march if she has to go! i am very anxious!</p>
<p>Sounds like a story there, Duper. Care to elaborate?</p>
<p>Especially on whether or not you feel you made the right choice/happy with it?</p>
<p>LaVie, it is time to exert your parental authority. Having options at decision time is essential. Get the paper. Hand her a pen. Have her sign it. Put a stamp on it and mail it. Hopefully she will have lots of options she prefers later, but today she has to deal with what is available right now. Good luck!</p>
<p>Because, Anon, when you apply to a safety you're HOPING that won't be your only option. But sometimes it is. Intentions, or lack thereof, become realities.</p>
<p>I was very grateful for an early acceptance letter from my safety.</p>
<p>I wrote a brief word of thanks to the Dean of Admissions, who had interviewed me, and I offered words of praise relevant to how deeply I respected the institution and its values.</p>
<p>I sent letters to the professors with whom I had been in contact as well, and we continue to stay in touch.</p>
<p>I know very few people like Duper, but it does happen. Be prepared for it.</p>
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I laughed at my safety's acceptance.</p>
<p>Then I sent in my deposit in May.
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<p>Your humbleness has elevated you, in my eyes. I see much success down the road for you.</p>
<p>kwu, very nice. You never know when your paths will cross again.</p>
<p>Real-life example from my youth: I took a job the summer between my junior and senior years in HS as a camp counselor. I didn't want the job but caved under pressure from a cousin who wanted company (the girl who was supposed to do it with her bailed). After the first week, she quit. Well, I wasn't going to stay there by myself when I didn't want to do it in the first place. I quit, too.</p>
<p>Fast forward to the next spring. I'm up for a scholarship given by a woman's group in my area of interest and have to interview to get it. I walk into the interview room, and there seated across from me was the director of the camp I left in a lurch the summer before!</p>
<p>Like I said, you never know when you'll see/need some of these people again. Treat everyone as you would want to be treated.</p>
<p>Youdon't say...of course, nobody wants to be forced to go to only one school b/c of rejection. However, the OP clearly states that they have no intention of ever going to that school. Again, my question: why bother applying? If you are going to take a gap year if you don't get in your top 5 choices rather than go to safety, why apply to safety?</p>
<p>It's a business. They don't have any personal connection to you at all. Are they offering you a full ride? If not, then you're just lost potential income to them. They probably have a hundred students better than you coming in anyway.</p>
<p>Don't apply to a safety if you can't see yourself there.
Safeties should have the traits you want in your matches and reaches, but be less selective. Choosing a safety without such desired traits is just a bad decision, as you may end up having to go there.</p>
<p>Anon, OP doesn't THINK he'll have to go there, but if that's the only option he might have to. I didn't read anything about a gap year or top 5 choices. Maybe you know more about OP's back story than I do?</p>
<p>Anagram, excellent point. If OP can't see himself there, he should never have applied. But he did, and if there are no other offers then OP might have to reconsider, whether he wants to or not.</p>
<p>My safety was CUNY. I had all the typical CC stats (99 percentile SATs, top 10% of graduating class, etc). Was waitlisted and/or rejected at every top school that I applied to.
So I'm just saying you shouldn't dismiss anything, heh.</p>