<p>A degree will last longer than most marriages. If, however, you want to go to Berkeley because it's a better fit for you as a student, I think it's worth waiting another year. You're only 20, you have plenty of time.</p>
<p>how young are you? you shouldn't even be married..i think you being married is a bigger problem than anything you've written in this thread</p>
<p>Wow, do not knock the institution of marriage- it is a wonderful thing. What made you so cynical and mean spirited towards marriage?</p>
<p>People end up with so many divorces these days they care more about themselves than about their marriage to begin with and it is so easy to just get divorced and try again.</p>
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<li>Happily Married.</li>
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<p>What is wrong with considering SF State or UC Davis, or maybe even UC Santa Cruz? What about USF or Mills College, if you can afford it? I know I can easily say this because I'm starting classes at Cal this week, and I know others may disagree with me, but really, WHERE you go to school mostly does not matter in the long run. I know lots of people who went to SF State and have done really well in their careers, including one girl who majored in Int'l Relations and Italian and has just been promoted to a high paying position in London. A friend of mine will be a senior at SFSU this year, and he already has a job in his field lined up after graduation. I also know a few Cal alumni who really aren't doing much at all with their degrees...</p>
<p>Ultimately, it will be you who must decide based on what you know about your relationship (that none of us do) and your feelings on how it might or might not work for you to be living several hundred miles away. It IS do-able for some people, but none of us, even those who are married, can judge if it is or is not do-able for you. I myself am in a long distance relationship (different continents, even) for almost 3 years now. It isn't always easy to be so far apart for so long, but we have a great time when we do manage to meet. If you are still leaning towards going to UCLA, just think that 2 years is really not that long. I would assume you would be home for the winter break, maybe Thanksgiving, spring break, and summer, so that shortens the time apart even more.</p>
<p>Well, my hubby is going to fly to LA every 3 weeks and also on special occasions. We'll also talk everyday so I believe that it'll be fine. I was confused for a moment. But like I said, he encourages me to attend UCLA. In fact, he thinks UCLA really suits me.</p>
<p>Anyway, our marriage is great. It's not any different from before, just adding some marriage stuff. And we're not planning on having kids until I'm 30 or something.</p>
<p>My plan is to go to UCLA for a year and work the next year then return to finish for another year. Done. The longest time I'll ever be away from him is 10 months max. I need some internship anyway so having a job for a year will be a great opportunity for me to have some work experience before I graduate. Especially since I never really have a REAL job before...:)</p>
<p>Anon, you may want to take any opinions on marital issues given here with a grain of salt. This is not Relationship Counselors Confidential. </p>
<p>Your husband who presumably knows you better than any of us do seems to think UCLA is a good fit. How do you feel about it? Is there something about the school that excites you?</p>
<p>Some marriages/relationships can handle the separation - others can not. It is almost impossible to predict which marriages will last regardless of the particular obstacles.</p>
<p>Good luck with whatever you and your husband choose to do!</p>
<p>Annika</p>
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<p>wins thread. she couldn't even drink champagne at her wedding</p>
<p>lets start a pool... i put my money on half a year</p>
<p>Do not go to UCLA. And this is speaking as a long married person. With a long distance relationship. Why can't he move to LA for you? Does he have that good of a job that he can't get a similar one in LA? As other posters have mentioned, check out the 4 year state schools near you.</p>
<p>lol @ this thread
i'm sure whatever people post here, the decision will still be yours. </p>
<p>rather than posting a thread on a public forum, try asking your friends and people you already know. they are bound to give you a better answer based on you as a person rather than a whole bunch of varied nonsense on an internet forum, not to include the flaming. </p>
<p>while i'm sure everyone here is giving the best advice according to their own experiences (except #9, lol), you and your relationship with your husband may be different. </p>
<p>either way, trust yourself to make the best decision and if you do decide to go to la, your relationship with your husband will be up to you both - compromises, the effort put into it, etc. </p>
<p>gl</p>