<p>So I got rejected by this girl I've liked for a LONG time. Feeling very down now.</p>
<p>Is getting rejected by girls something most guys experience or is it just me? Do I need to carefully analyze my faults and shortcomings or should I just move on?</p>
<p>dude even brad pitt gets freaking rejected...not every girl wants him. </p>
<p>there are many fish in the sea....just move on.</p>
<p>sorry bro.
at least you asked
you'll move on eventually
and you won't have to waste time on someone who was never interested</p>
<p>I'm sorry. You'll find someone else soon enough, though. Just got to keep trying...it sucks for everyone at some point.</p>
<p>At least you had the courage to ask. That can't be said for many many many guys.</p>
<p>nope...never happened to me</p>
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<p>That is oh so true. Be happy you even got to the asking phase. Thats a big accomplishment in itself.</p>
<p>aw. you`ll be ok . at least you asked! girls just want to know how guys are feeling + at least you put yourself out there.</p>
<p>Happens to all guys. Don't worry about it.</p>
<p>yea, that happened to me a few months ago but i just used it as a wake-up call that there's a lot of cooler girls out there. just try to move on. at least ya gave it a shot and now you won't have to ask "what if".</p>
<p>I have felt your pain. Read and learn (yes, look for my post):</p>
<p>She's the one missing out, bud.</p>
<p>i feel you aihara. i give you "baller" status for having the guts to do tell her your feelings. yeah not many guys are like you so be proud that you have the courage. Hopefully you guys are still friends? if she is considerate she wont ignore you after that move. just say hi once in a while and maybe after a month it will get back to friendship mode w/o the awkwardness and you can start talking to her again as friends. at this time you will probably be less self conscious and hey! who knows, maybe she will see a new you and fall for that.</p>
<p>also, b/c u have focused and invested so much energy in her, and now that you know its probably not good for you 2 to get together...your eyes will be opened to many other girls. </p>
<p>in the meantime, just take it easy and enjoy the luxury of not liking anyone. you are worryfree! nobody you need to "impress", nothing distracating you. just hold your head up high and think "im a real man, i told her how i felt, and if shes not into me, shes missing out on some great ****". Talk to new girls, be yourself, and fool around! trust me :]</p>
<p>dude...</p>
<p>you are not alone. not too long ago i got rejected by a girl that i really liked. she was like a dream to me but she just rejected me.</p>
<p>im not gonna say to you "just move on" cause that is unrealistic and easier said than done. you just cope with it.</p>
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Is getting rejected by girls something most guys experience or is it just me? Do I need to carefully analyze my faults and shortcomings or should I just move on?
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<p>By definition guys experience rejection often, if they are taking chances and trying to, for lack of a better way of putting it, win the hearts of women. </p>
<p>I know you had your heart set on this woman. And I have felt your pain.</p>
<p>But I am going to tell you to move on. Move on right now. </p>
<p>DO NOT wallow in feelings of what your faults and shortcomings are. That is a complete waste of time. She did not fall for you not because you aren't perfect -- because no one is -- but because she simply wasn't attracted to you.</p>
<p>Once I worked with a woman who was a hottie and really hot **** at what she did as well. Everybody respected her. I, on the other hand was kind of a f*** off at what I did, though no would have argued they didn't think I was smart. Anyway, we worked together on some projects and she really fell for me. At first I didn't see it 'cause my life was kind of a mess at that time and I just assumed this put her out of my league -- my girlfriend of 4 years and I were breaking apart, I was f***ing off at work, etc. The point is I realized that shortcomings have nothing to do with whether a woman is attracted to you, and if you doubt this just look at about 90% of the people you see together.</p>
<p>If you want to figure out how to make it work for you better next time (focus on the next time and forget about this bump in the road), read the thread above and other related ones.</p>
<p>And be confident, 'cause above all, confidence is the currency that buys the attention of women. Women don't like lapdogs or weaklings. You'll be better off if you put a little bit of the rogue in your soul if that's what it takes.</p>
<p>Don't think that you need to work harder at being less faulty because of this woman or any woman -- that is something you do for yourself not for anyone else. Work on your game. That is the thing you work on to get in good with the ladies, and eventually the lady you like. 'Cause the first truism is that the ladies like a guy who is attractive to other ladies.</p>
<p>Rejection is part of the game. At a certain point you learn to accept it and when you do you become much more powerful. Let me give you an extreme example that I even I find a bit offensive but it illustrates a principle. A friend told me this story about being out the other night with this total smart ass married man. The guy offered to be my friend's wing man. So this guy goes up to this really beautiful woman and says "you've got a really nice rack." Well, the woman was offended (of course), but it also became apparent to my friend that she was flattered on another level. But the wing man was completely confident and she kept talking to them. My friend is now going out with her; my friend has confidence too and is good with the ladies, but not that brazen. I am not suggesting you try piggish behavior like this -- it would backfire on you anyway. But I am telling you that, above all, woman like confidence and reward it. What they don't want someone is to ask permission -- in effect, do you like me? -- they want someone who in effect says through their attitude: I like you, I think you're beautiful (and coming from someone like me that means something). Work it, my friend. And above all, move on. There are many, many more where she came from. Keep your chin far up.</p>
<p>aihara: Here is a better post for you:</p>
<p>*** is wrong with you? Of course everyone gets rejected! Don't analyze yourself. Move on! There are 3 BILLION other fish in the sea!!</p>
<p>At least you had the courage man. Just keep moving forward!</p>
<p>Think of it this way: SHE is the one getting the short end of the deal, not you.</p>
<p>when you get rejected, you are not being rejected as a human being. You are being rejected as a romantic parnter. So it has nothing to do with how good a person you are. Don't change who you are because someone didn't like you in a sexual/romantic way, you probably just weren't her type. Happens all the time. There's probably an uglier, nicer girl out there who wants you so bad you can't imagine...</p>