<p>Alright I'd like to just take a minute to explain my entire situation to you guys because I really need some guidance here and I don't know where to turn :</p>
<p>So I started college last fall and I came to college with several friends from high school. They weren't really drawn into greek life but I was so down for it. I was deciding between two asian fraternities (I'm asian), the first fraternity is very fun, they host a lot of parties, pretty big nationally, but I just wasn't connecting with any of them and did not picture myself as one of them. The second one is smaller, a statewide fraternity, with a bunch of cool laid back dudes. </p>
<p>I really felt like I connected with the second fraternity and they were inviting me in to every event during rush week. I was very certain I would get a bid, surprisingly, my friends were also getting into greek life and were rushing various frats and sororities. </p>
<p>However, I didn't get a bid and they never told me why and communication just stopped after rush week. Very dissapointing. </p>
<p>So my first semester started going downhill, my female friends got bids but decided not to rush first semester and actually became very good friends with the sororities. Now in spring semester, they are just about 100% sure they are pledging and my one male friend is also just about 100% certain he's pledging for the first fraternity I talked about.</p>
<p>The problem is, I wasn't invited to any rush events for the second fraternity this semester. The brothers all seemed a bit distant when I bumped into them at parties and I felt uncomfortable texting the brothers about rush events. They were definitely not welcoming this semester like they were first semester.</p>
<p>I don't know what I did wrong! Everything seemed fine last semester, I even got invited to do an interview which i got a good vibe from but after the interview they just stopped communicating with me.</p>
<p>My friends are telling me to just try for the first fraternity, which I cant see myself with. I really want to join the second fraternity even if they don't really see my potential. </p>
<p>So yeah that was a lengthy description, but basically my problem is should I try to ask them why they changed their minds about me this semester? I was thinking of just going up to them next fall before rush and just ask for a clean slate and start over but idk. </p>
<p>I really want to join the second frat, but they don't seem interested in me. The few friends I have all seem to be joining greek life and I, truthfully, don't want to be left behind. What should I do?</p>