<p>Yeah. it's true. I waited for about 35 minutes for my interviewer to arrive yet he never came. it wasn't an alumni interview either, actually an admissions rep from the school itself! can you believe it?! what should I do? send an angry email or something? lol</p>
<p>You don't get angry - you presume that there was a justifiable reason.</p>
<p>Definitely send a direct e-mail to the interviewer, with a copy to the general admissions office, briefly recapping what you thought the arrangements were, and, since there was a misunderstanding, asking to reschedule as soon as possible.</p>
<p>How about a nice email...something like "I was scheduled for an interview on November 12. I believe I recorded the date and time correctly, but the interviewer did not arrive. Could I please schedule another interview for a future date?" </p>
<p>No sense in getting angry. For all you know, the guy was ill, got lost, or got into a car accident. The bottom line is you would like to schedule another interview.</p>
<p>Masha, when something like this happens, I think the best approach is to act like you think you made a mistake. To do otherwise puts the other party on the defensive, which is NOT where you want an admissions officer to be. I would send an email saying something like, "I must have made a mistake about the time for our scheduled interview. I thought it was at blank time in blank location, but apparently there was a misunderstanding. Is is possible to reschedule as soon as possible? I'm really interested in your school and would like to learn more about how I'd fit in."</p>
<p>yeah, that is a more civil way to go about doing things. I just didn't know where to start or how to write the email</p>
<p>What do you mean? You've gotten good advice about what to write and who to send it to...</p>
<p>That happened to me too. I drove 40 minutes to his office, where his secretary told me she thought that he'd forgotten our appointment. She told me to wait for a while in case he came back, and after I waited for about a half hour, told me that there was probably no point in waiting any longer. I left him a note telling him that I had been to see him at the time when I thought our interview was scheduled, that I hoped we could do it another time, and that I hoped all was well (I had the date and time in writing, so I was sure I had it right). It didn't seem like an auspicious beginning, but when his secretary told him that I had been "charmingly polite and patient", he was even more apologetic than he otherwise would have been. In fact, he was so apologetic that he drove to me instead of having me drive to him again. </p>
<p>The moral of the story is to never seem irritated or impolite, even when your interviewer has messed up. Think how you'd feel if you received an angry email about missing your interview if it had totally slipped your mind, or worse, if you'd gotten in a car accident on the way. Interviewers are human too :).</p>
<p>yikes if that happened to me id bet i screwed up. im not saying that you did, but check and make sure that was the proper time. the only thing worse then missing an interview is yelling at them for something that might be your fault.</p>
<p>if you are sure that you came and he/she didnt, then dont worry, reschedule and relax, they are going to feel bad for missing your interview and will, at least in their mind, feel that they have a debt to you. this will make them try to make up for it by being more (in lack of a more precise word) nicer during the interview.</p>
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The moral of the story is to never seem irritated or impolite, even when your interviewer has messed up.
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This is good advice for the rest of your life. It never hurts to give someone the benefit of the doubt, and courtesy is always the best strategy. It's easier to assume you've made a mistake and allow someone else to say, "No, it's my fault," than to go to battle where you lose, even if you win.</p>
<p>yes, i think you should be your nicest and make the interviewer really feel sorry. This way you give yourself an unfair advantage over the other kids, and hopefully it would turn out to be a good thing!!! If not (like as in the person's still super rude), then you might as well reconsider going to a college that breeds such a horrible thing. Then if you've decided onthe mark that you're not going to attend, you might as well spill water on the person 'accidentally'. Or, you could wait for the decision, and if the decision does not please you can post this story all over the place. anyway: you have the rest of your life to be angry, just stay super-nice for now!</p>
<p>How about </p>
<p>"Hello Sally- </p>
<p>I'm sorry we didn't connect for our interview on Friday. I hope everything is okay. I'm available to reschedule at your convenience and am looking forward to meeting you."</p>
<p>There's an old saying :"Least said, soonest mended". Commit it to memory. </p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>How about</p>
<p>"Hello Sally-</p>
<p>I'm sorry you couldn't find the time for an interview. Yeah, I know you have a lot to do, but so do I. And, most likely, my time matters more than yours you inconsiderate piece of trash. Get someone else for my interview you stupid, lazy woman.</p>
<p>Cordially,
masha."</p>
<p>hahaha....... now that would be an agry email... aah, only in dreams. .....</p>
<p>Do not cc anybody on whatever you write. Just something simple like, "I had written in my calendar that we were to meet for an interview on date/time. I'm concerned I may have written this on the wrong day. Would you mind checking your calendar to see if we have an appointment? I'm still very interested in XX college, and hope to meet with you soon. </p>
<p>Another - in my opinion possibly better approach -- would be to call. Bad news is best not delivered in writing.</p>
<p>Yep...Sr...and you can use that when your boss blows you off for a meeting...and your client fails to show up, even after you've flown in to meet with them...and your husband is late or dinner without calling....and your....</p>
<p>My point is, this is a situation that will repeat itself throughout life. The more experience you gain, the more things like this won't matter so much. Like others here have said, this is an opportunity. The interviewer is going to appreciate a polished, mature reaction. It'll be much more impressive than the typical interviews. </p>
<p>I flew to Kentucky to meet with a client several weeks ago. I took several staff members with me - and my VP (and he wants a guarantee of good "face time" with senior officers if he goes anywhere). The meeting lasted all day and there were no less than 15 people in the conference room, but one key player (a Senior VP and decision maker) on my client's side didn't show up until 15 minutes before we were to leave for the airport.</p>
<p>We delayed our travel and met with him until well after everyone else left. He was obviously unprepared and rushed us through the discussion.</p>
<p>A couple of days later, the VPs colleague, who had been away on his anniversary trip with is wife, called me and asked how the meeting went. I never mentioned the problem. He said he "heard" about how his colleague missed the meeting (from the third VP, who had been in the meeting). He said that he and the VP who attended were unhappy with their colleague and would address it. Two days later, the "MIA" VP called and offered me the business I had been after and then some. Turns out, the firm he had planned on going with has been suddenly acquired and they aren't going to honor any of their contracts....so I'm it. </p>
<p>Point being: had I reacted to his initial delay, I would have been bypassed for this opportunity. My clients disappoint me on a daily basis. No biggie. I expect them to. Its one of my strategies for success.</p>
<p>"Yeah. it's true. I waited for about 35 minutes for my interviewer to arrive yet he never came. it wasn't an alumni interview either, actually an admissions rep from the school itself! can you believe it?! what should I do? send an angry email or something? lol"</p>
<p>I would assume that either the interviewer forgot (which happens occasionally with even the most professional people) or there was some kind of emergency or other problem that caused the interviewer to miss the appointment. As is the case with teens, interviewers are human and things like car problems, deaths in the family, illnesses can cause them to make mistakes.</p>
<p>Frankly, instead of being angry, I'd be concerned that perhaps the interviewer was in an accident or was sick or had some other emergency problem. I doubt that any adcom would have a job if they routinely missed interview appointments.</p>
<p>I agree with Momsdream: This is something that will happen again in other situations. It's important to handle the situation with grace.</p>
<p>I'd send a polite note to the person saying that I'd thought that we had an appointment at XX time date, but since the person didn't come, I was wondering if I had mixed up the date. I'd emphasize my continued interest in the college and in having an interview.</p>
<p>Imagine this scenario, which happened to us in January '00: after a bad snowstorm the previous day, my d. and I took a train to D.C. for her to see and interview at Johns Hopkins. We arrive at the admissions office lobby, and everything was dark and and the offices were closed. We were completely dumbfounded. Then, a man comes down a sweeping staircase, and I, in a very upset voice, ask him what could be going on...my d. had an interview...we just travelled 4 hours, etc. He looked distraught, and then introduced himself as the President of Johns Hopkins. He said that the whole town, including the school, had closed down because of the snow. He said we should have gotten a phone call notifying us (but we had left very early that morning and missed it!) Of course, I completely changed my tone, backed off and let my daughter take over. He was so nice....he proceeded to call the admissions director on his cell phone, and arranged for my d. to interview (with him!) the next day. He then said he was on the way to the airport, but had some extra time: he would drive us to our hotel (we'd taken the train), and give us a tour on the way. My d. and he chatted, and he showed us various parts of the campus, and he even told us his son would be attending Amherst in the fall.
The next day, my d. had a great interview with the Dean of Admissions. Upon getting home, she sent an additional thank you note to the President, thanking him for all that he had done. She did get accepted there, and received a research grant as well (which she had applied for just by submitting a topic proposal). While she didn't end up attending Hopkins, that experience remains one of our most memorable of those from the admissions process.</p>
<p>One answer not mentioned here is the "is everything all right?" approach. You call the number (when someone is about 15 minutes late) and say, in an alarmed time, "I'm just calling to make sure everything is all right, because I know you wouldn't be late if everything were okay."</p>
<p>The last time I did this, it turned out my friend had just found out her daughter had breast cancer, she had in fact forgotten, and she was relieved I understood.</p>
<p>And if everything is okay, you've reminded them when there's still a chance to reschedule.</p>
<p>dONEMOM
what a wonderful ending--to meet the Pres!</p>
<p>Donemom,
what a nice story - and how very courteous of the president and the director of admissions.</p>