<p>So there's this guy in my dorm, though not on my floor, that I really like. We're casual acquaintances right now. Whenever I run into him, we talk for a few minutes and whenever I walk past his room and the door's open, I stop by and talk to him for a bit. I also see him at parties a lot and I've gone to a few of his parties as well. How do I go from a casual acquaintance, to a friend to something more than that? What should I do? Should I be really obvious (just to him when we're alone) and flirt a lot and then back off and see what he does? Should I make more of an effort to spend time with him? I don't want to annoy him though. What should I do? Guys and girls, tell me what you think. Oh and here's a side question: do guys notice when you're flirting with them? Or are they completely oblivious?</p>
<p>bump bump bump</p>
<p>I don't know about most other guys, but I am usually totally oblivious if a girl is flirting with me.</p>
<p>guys can usually pick up a vibe if your flirting with them. Dont make it too obvious.</p>
<p>Some "vibes" are unreadable by some guys, or, more accurately, don't appear to be signals at all. Then again, some guys can pick these up.</p>
<p>Guys might know and might not know when you're flirting, or, if you're just flirting to flirt, or want something such as a relationship, as in the flirting is to show interest beyond just an interest in flirting.</p>
<p>I usually know when a girl is flirting. It is usually obvious. Just try to hang out with the guy more. Ask, hey i dont really have anything to do, wanna go blah blah idk what ever you would do, but something like that. Be touchy feely and smile alot and brush up against him in noticable ways to get his attention.</p>
<p>to the OP, there's dozens of reasons why things haven't gone any farther. He may be interested in some other girl he's met, he may not be interested in you, he may not think he could date a girl like you because you aren't interested in him romantically, he may be shy or socially inexperienced (many of the frosh guys around you have NEVER gone on a date), he may have a Home-Town Honey (although these are usually gone by Xmas break), and so on.</p>
<p>And dating is less common than you think in college, anyway. What happens is more along the line "hook-ups" rather than the bf/gf stuff.</p>
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I have to let you in on a secret. While you may be acting in ways that make every other woman in the room roll her eyes and think "can she be any more obvious, the sad fact is that its probably missed completely by the guys!</p>
<p>Yes, guys are that clueless. All that stuff, the "accidental" touch or brushing, feigning interest in things you could care less about, laughing at dumb comments like they actually were funny -- you name it, and guys miss it. Trust me, you just can't be too obvious to a guy.</p>
<p>Part of it is socialization. Girls are adept at reading social cues and have been practicing doing this practically since they could talk. They can chart the social network of friendships and enemies at their school down to a T. Boys, they play sports. If a boy is mad at another boy, he lets him know, usually with his fist. This isn't the training you'd want for interpreting subtle expressions and gestures.</p>
<p>Buy yourself a book and move on. This is a book and you might learn a bit about yourself by reading it. Good Luck</p>
<p>He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (Hardcover)</p>
<p>Lucy, you go to Brown, there are no attractive people here (except for the Tulane kids, of course).
Do yourself a favor and find a guy from URI or Providence College. Trust me.</p>
<p>You can thank me later.</p>
<p>-Displaced from Tulane and stuck at Brown and ****ed off about the lack of attractive people.</p>
<p>^ Yes, because we all know that one place will have absolutely no attractive people at all...</p>
<p>Absolutely no attractive people at all.</p>
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You apparently have never been to Pittsburgh.</p>
<p>It is very easy for a girl to ask out a guy, if the guy is attracted to the girl. VERY easy. You can be as blatant and flirtatious as you want, he'll be happy. Guys are much more careful about being flirtatious around girls because they are unpredictable. But if you like a guy, be flirty with him and see what happens. If you don't get a date right there, then he isn't interested.</p>
<p>what I've noticed is that girls who are not that great looking and somewhat attractive, if pay enough attention to a guy, spend enough time with him, and flirt a little, the guy will start to get attracted to her. Is this true?</p>
<p>that's true to an extent, no to be mean but there's a point where all the flirting and attention in the world won't help you . . .</p>
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what I've noticed is that girls who are not that great looking and somewhat attractive, if pay enough attention to a guy, spend enough time with him, and flirt a little, the guy will start to get attracted to her. Is this true?
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<p>This is because most guys are horny and will pretty much **** anything with a vagina. I wish I could sugarcoat things, but y'all need to know how it really works out.
I personally don't think this is true, I know I can tell within the first five minutes of meeting someone whether or not I would have a relationship with them (or even simply hook up), but hey, go for it, it's worth a shot.</p>
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You apparently have never been to Pittsburgh.
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<p>It would basically be like me saying that there no attractive girls where I am. Very silly statement to make. There are attractive people (guys and girls) in any city. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places.</p>
<p>adconard... youre soooo weird</p>
<p>Eh ... it's my nature. =P</p>
<p>So what's so weird about the post?</p>
<p>Hey, if things dont work out, maybe i'll date you when i get into Brown ;)</p>