<p>TA hit the nail on the head. Girls like ‘nice guys’ but a lot of the dudes who whine that they get rejected by girls who say they’re too nice are wrong. They’re just BORING. Get a hobby, play a sport, play the damn guitar or anything, just be good at it and show you have a life outside of dating. The same problem arises with dorks who worship their girlfriends over all else and then are confused when it’s not a bona fide seducion technique.</p>
<p>Bottom line; girls like guys who have their own lives. Not just because it makes them more interesting but you want someone to HAVE other options available but they choose to spend time with you instead (sometimes, not all the time obviously). It’s a value thing. ‘Spend time with my girlfriend or go design rockets for NASA?’ vs ‘Spend time with my girlfriend or sit in my basement fapping all day’. One is clearly a harder decision.</p>