<p>Is anyone else here just rarely genuinely happy? Right now I am at the school of my dreams but I am just not happy. I am not depressed, but I just feel like I should be happy. I didn't really like high school, and thought college would be where everything is perfect, and this is not the case. I'm really not sure if I have friends and my grades aren't great. I really have no idea, because I am just a very confused individual. Part of me is just never satisfied with anything in life and I always worry about things way too much even when something is out of my control. It just seems that it would suck to go through this experience being regretful and not happy, because these are supposed to be 4 great years. Thanks!</p>
<p>I'd say (not that this will necessarily be practical advice in terms of improving your situation) that you're probably the cause of most of your own unhappiness. Try to relax, take things less seriously. Try being outgoing - join things, talk to people, and you will make friends.</p>
<p>It may take some effort and conscious work to have a better time, but it's not impossible.</p>
<p>datty...sorry you are feeling so blahhhhh.</p>
<p>Colleges have counseling centers manned very often by grad students. These can be great places to try to work through some of your concerns. Check them out.</p>
<p>If you choose not to, then go to the bookstiore and look in the self help section on books about cognitive therapy. This is very cool stuff and centers around your internal dialog. Change what you say to yourself and you begin to feel better. This actually works!</p>
<p>My last thought is that different people feel emotions at different levels. Not everyone is wired to be blissfully happy and giddy. For some people happy and sad are not to far apart on the emotion scale. Have you ever felt jump up and down happy? Maybe that's not you. Just a few thoughts...</p>
<p>Extremely happy? Not really, I'm not the type to go glowing around. Extremely content? YES. </p>
<p>If you're depressed go try something new.</p>
<p>Are you talking about happy in the "I did something fun today and it made me happy" sense, or happy in the "I am content with my life and I look forward to the future" sense? I hit the first one sometimes, but I don't actually remember ever feeling the second one. Actually, I'm just assuming that anyone would ever feel that way at all...I don't actually know. </p>
<p>People tell me all kinds of useless things like "well maybe you just like to be miserable" or "think about all the unfortunate people in the world" or "you need to choose to be happy" but that doesn't particularly do anything...makes me think that I'm not explaining myself properly and they have no idea what I'm talking about. Maybe everyone feels exactly the same and I just care about it more than other people...I don't know.</p>
<p>find spirituality, or just be a nhilistic d-bag and do whatever u wanr</p>
<p>The second one BlahDeBlah, like some stuff will obviously make me happy throughout the day, but my outlook on the future is pretty bleak. But I'm not depressed really, I am just simply not content and always worrying about stuff.</p>
<p>if u want to be happy, stop learning: bliss in ignorance....but as for me, i'm too powerful to be scared by knowledge. i thirst for more and more..knowledge must continually flow or else, i go insane..</p>
<p>you only get euphoria from cocaine fueled orgies. Hendonism backfires almosy instantly, and you end up much sadder than how you began.
Instead, find contentment. You do this by putting an end to desire. You have everything you need to be happy. Many of the kids on this site disagree-it's desire that drives them to greatness. They are perpetually disastisfied with themselves; they MUST get into Yale law, they must go to Harvard med. I'm not saying you should be lazy. Work hard, and try for Yale law if that's what you want. But don't let your happiness be conditional on something so fragile and ultimately ephemeral.</p>
<p>Don't you realize that many of the new technologies and innovations of recent decades are focused on pleasure and insignificant accomplishments? They handle the highest tier of the Mendel Pyramid of Needs! It's because transportaion (planes, trains and automobiles), textiles (clothing), heat (fire), and all the other essential foundations have already been created! Subsitutes may be made fore these technologies, but the social change is not as significant in the move from the telephone to the internet as people would have you think. It's because new technologies are replacing old ones...not innovating new changes in their own respect. </p>
<p>Turn your back on technology and live a humble but happy life in the country with the highest Gross National Happiness rating- Bhutan! They just got TV in 1999!</p>
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CONFOUND HIM...WHO in this place set up a sundial to cut and hack my days so wretchedly into small portions! -Plautus secound-century BCE</p>
<p>yes, charizard, u're my hero!! please, teach me ur wisdom on how to find happiness in this dreadful life...living in the country off berries and insects: is that all i must do??</p>
<p>^hah.</p>
<p>44% of college students are so depressed they feel they can't function properly? .. and yet we still all strive to go to college, where people are on average about as depressed as ther are in jail. hmm ..</p>