<p>Any parent with more than one kid can probably agree that each one has different needs, and what fits the first may be entirely wrong for the second. Our first is now happily at boarding school, wanted to attend, and is thriving. That said, he did have to give up some cherished ECs he had been pursuing at home, but the whole boarding school environment more than makes up for that. He is learning more than he ever could at home, and so we are big fans of boarding school... for HIM. He didn't aim for HADES, so our search was probably different than for most readers here, but we couldn't be happier with his choice. It really is all about fit.</p>
<p>Now child #2 is quite different; so much so, that it seems my experience in the first go-around is nearly useless in trying to figure out what is best for her. She is extremely self-motivated, a stellar student, and currently at an excellent private day school. She, too, is pursuing much-loved ECs that would have to be dropped if she were to attend boarding school. I actually hadn't been considering BS for her at all, until I mentioned her interest in attending Oxford (her idea) to a consultant friend. The friend, whose child attended a top boarding school, feels that for our D to be considered at Oxford (or equivalent), she really needs the education a top boarding school could give her. </p>
<p>Right now, she's at an IB school in middle school, and her current track would lead her to graduate with a bilingual IB. This school does have some kids go on to Ivies and is no slouch school, but I'm really not sure if it could compare to HADES, rigorous bilingual IB nothwithstanding. Again, she'd have to give up cherished ECs. She is open to all possibilities, and I don't want to do her a disservice through parental ignorance. We have some time to figure this out, as she wouldn't be applying this year anyway.</p>
<p>Any advice? As smart as she is, I wonder about the value of yanking her from where she is doing well, yet her school does have a bullying problem, so we are not entirely enamored with it, though she is managing on that. Why is it that the nice, hardworking, bright kids often have such a hard time fitting in in middle school? I also wonder about those that get into HADES only to find that, among superstars, they are not as bright as they thought and their self-esteem takes a hard whack...maybe she will be one of those superstars, but who knows. And what happens to those bright kids at HADES that do <em>not</em> end up in the top half of their class, and are not athletes, legacies, URMs, etc? </p>
<p>Sorry for the long ramble...this board has been so helpful with kid #1, and I feel so 'fish out of water' with kid #2, who is an entirely different animal (to mix metaphors). Thanks!!</p>