<p>we have now been to visit three schools and we are getting more of a sense as to what would be a good fit for our son. we have an interview scheduled for sat at a school that we don't think we would want to pursue. </p>
<p>also, the interview is at 9 am ( and we live 3 1/2 hours away) so I don't want to go if we are already thinking it won't be a good fit. </p>
<p>any suggestions as to what to say when I call to cancel?</p>
<p>I had to cancel two years ago when I toured. I think I actually cancelled about 2 or 3. My mom just called and said that we had an appointment come up and we could no longer make the interview and that we were sorry to give such short notice.</p>
<p>I never cancelled prep school interviews, but I have withdrawn applications from graduate programs. At least for PhD programs, most schools appreciate knowing as early as possible if you are no longer seriously considering their program. Early withdrawal improves their yield and saves them time--so really you're doing them a favor. :)</p>
<p>I would call and be honest--your child plans to withdraw his application because s/he has fallen in love with another type of school. Thank them for their consideration, compliment them on their great (but ill-fitting) school, and apologize if this causes them any inconvenience. Basically just be gracious.</p>
<p>Congrats on making it one step closer to choosing a school!</p>
<p>I'd ask them to reschedule till sometime in November (maybe after Thanksgiving). Tell them you have a family conflict for this Saturday. When the time comes if you really decide that it isn't one you're interested, bow out then.</p>
<p>Why not try the truth? Schools appreciate getting good fits.</p>
<p>I was just suggesting leaving the door open a while longer just in case there is a change of heart.</p>
<p>You guys are great! </p>
<p>My son has not applied to this school, or any others at this time, so I don't need to withdraw anything. </p>
<p>He is not any closer to choosing, because of course he needs to apply and see where he is accepted. But he does not want such a small boarding population and this school is only about one hundred some boarders. My husband was hunting around the school website and figured this out yesterday. Do you think I should say that- or just that we had something come up and we will call back to reschedule and sorry for the short notice. </p>
<p>I do feel terrible because I had called last week to ask if they could do a later time, explaining that we would need to leave our house at 5 am to be there, and they didn't have anything available, but told me that they would put me on a waiting list. They were very nice about it. </p>
<p>We have three other schools set up to visit making it a total of six.</p>
<p>drnancie, as I believe suze mentioned, be honest and tell then that after further review, our son has decided it (the school) would not be a good fit for him. Thank them for there time and you're finished. They also appreciate that not all students will not fit there school, so they have an appreciation for this situation. Good Luck! What schools have you visited so far? PM if you like.</p>
<p>so far, been to choate, suffield, and loomis.</p>
<p>any favorite so far?</p>
<p>I called the school that we were to go to, and explained the truth. they were beyond lovely about it. we left it that if he changes his mind, we will call back. Whew!</p>
<p>No he doesn't have a favorite so far. We are doing exeter, andover, and middlesex also.</p>
<p>drnancie, see that wasn't so hard after all. I'm sure the school appreciated your honesty. Good luck with the rest of the interviews.</p>
<p>Did you consider Berkshire School? The few people I know who looked at and liked Suffield Academy also looked at and liked the Berkshire School. I have no special insight into either school other than hearing some favorable comments. My son did not want a coat & tie school, so we did not look at either. Just a suggestion in case you are inclined to add another after dropping one.</p>
<p>I don't know if we can deal with looking at more schools. I don't know about the rest of you but it is exhausting to be going on these visits every weekend! And last year my older son did college apps!</p>
<p>we may go visit a day school on sunday for an open house. we are still trying to figure out if we really could manage to have our son go to a day school that is not in the immediate area. this one is almost an hour away.</p>