<p>My son sent a deposit to a school and now is having second thoughts. Didn't reply to other school. Is now thinking he made a mistake. Not sure he really wants to go anywhere but realizes that other school has better academics and would be easier to transfer from if he wanted to do that next year or as soph. School he accepted made some promises that are now not coming true. (ie housing, aid, ect) I tried to have him "get it in writing" but they never seem to do that and were shocked that others did? Has anyone ever encountered this before? Any suggestions on how to advise him?</p>
<p>Maybe someone with a better memory can help out, but wasn’t it Heron last summer whose daughter vascillated until they were practically on the road to the college? I just remember that it was a nightmare. You might want to search for her threads.</p>
<p>Every single year there are students who change their minds during the summer. The official admissions office term for this is “summer melt”.</p>
<p>He could go ahead and ask the other school if their offer is still open. It may be.</p>
<p>If he really is undecided, talk to him about taking a year off to work and think about his future. That is OK too.</p>
<p>Happens all the time - the admissions term for it is “Summer Melt”.</p>
<p>" School he accepted made some promises that are now not coming true. (ie housing, aid, ect)"</p>
<p>Those are important reasons to have second thoughts. I suggest advising him to find out if the other college still will take him.</p>
<p>I was surprised that you said that aid was promised but not in writing. Our experience was that each school sent a letter detailing exactly what the financial aid would be. You as a parent should talk to someone in financial aid to get that part straightened out. </p>
<p>I’m sure many students have second thoughts over the summer. I would be absolutely sure that your son really wanted the other school, then would suggest that he call himself to admissions at school #2 and ask if there is any way he could change. My guess is that they might be somewhat sympathetic if they still had spaces.</p>
<p>The first step would definitely be to see if the other option is still open. Then a lot of soul searching needs to take place, especially since he is young and not excited about any of his choices. Remind him that life is not a race and it won’t matter one bit if he starts college this year, next or later. </p>
<p>I believe your S deposited at KU, where my S is completing his freshman year. I will tell you that we have been very happy with his advising and the level of classes. My S does not come in with the stats your S has, but he is a bright student. We were a little concerned that as a shy kid S would get lost in the shuffle at a big school and truthfully, he did have a few missteps, but by and large has learned to be his own advocate and seek out what he needed. We have seen tremendous growth in him this year. Living in a “learning community” may be helpful.</p>
<p>If your lookup posts by MidwestParent they should be helpful. Her very accomplished daughter graduated from KU this past year, send her a PM for details.</p>
<p>Thanks my-3-sons, I’ll check that out.</p>