<p>so i'm a transfer and was placed with a random roommate in a double. it seems like were compatible and nothing really bad has happened except this one incident. i've tried to get along with her and asked her to stufff but she seems to have made friends with these other girls in our hall and we don't really hang out outside of our room.</p>
<p>at first, i hung out with the girls she's made friends with like as a hall but now it seems like they've formed their own group. also, whenever i'm in a conversation with her she replies but doesn't really keep the convo going, and i'm the one that usually initiates. i thought this was her personality but she talks to the girls in our hall, but still she seems fake like i heard her gossiping about another girl in our hall, and i'm not sure if she talks about me to the girls in our hall behind my back since she's like always in their room since i've heard her talk about another girl. i don't really know what i did wrong cuz i tried to be friends with her. like i'm so sick of roommate drama cuz i had to deal with in the past and i really don't want to unnecessary drama when i didn't even do anything and tried to get along with my roommate. </p>
<p>and it seems like were not going to become friends at this point since she's already made friends with some of the other girls in our hall. i'm not sure if she's a dramatic fake ***** or what but this is really annoying me especially because i tried to befriend her but she didn't really reciprocate. i don't really understand why people try to make you feel bad for no reason. so i'm wondering if should try to switch out or just stay for the rest of the semester.</p>
<p>That really sucks. But I don’t know if you should transfer to a different dorm room yet. If she starts being outright rude to you or harming you in anyway, yeah- get out of there. But otherwise, just give her the cold shoulder and spend more time out of the room. You don’t have to be friends, and you don’t want fake, gossipy friends. You just live in the same room for a year and that’s it. But if it really gets to you, then switch rooms with someone. </p>
<p>Also, to be honest, as you read in my post, I don’t live in a dorm, so I’m not completely sure what it’s like. But this is just my opinion, so if you find it helpful, cool. If not, sorry. I just feel like this is what I would do in that situation.</p>
<p>I wasn’t friends with either of my roommates, and in the case of my second roommate, we didn’t talk much simply because neither of us was the chatty type. Maybe she thinks you’re fake and trying to wedge yourself into her life, and she doesn’t want to be joined at the hip with you all day and all night – I know I’d find it to be way too much for me. And gossip happens in friend groups; it’s really pretty normal in my experience, though you might have heard an especially biting remark, I’m not sure.</p>
<p>However, I think you’re likely creating drama where there isn’t any, and you should try to calm down and realize that just because you’re roommates doesn’t mean you have to be friends. The same goes for the rest of the girls in your dorm; I didn’t make any friends in my dorm, but I did in another dorm and in my classes.</p>
<p>Roommates are really hard, especially if they don’t match well with you. Gossiping always happens in friend groups, so you shouldn’t feel like she is trying to attack you. There isn’t anything you have done wrong (unless you have done something). It’s just that you and your roommate are different, and don’t click as easily as other girls may. You don’t have to be close friends with your roommate- you can just have a ‘casual friend’ relationship going. You shouldn’t switch out just yet. Your roommate might think badly of you if you switch out so quickly. But if she becomes downright mean to you, then you could consider moving.</p>
<p>OP, your post seems as though it was written by a 12 year old girl. Your roommate is under no obligation to be your best friend. The only obligation roommates have to each other is to respect each other and compromise when differences arise. </p>
<p>If you have an issue with your roommate, be mature enough to discuss it directly with her in a calm and rational way. Don’t blow little things out of proportion.</p>
<p>Unless it gets really uncomfortable, try to stick it out for the year and make it work. If you put in to switch, you might get someone worse. </p>
<p>In the meantime, make friends with other people, and figure out who you can room with for next year.</p>