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<p>How can noticing that you’re markedly different from your age-peers be a “baby stage” in development? The OP didn’t say (s)he thought that (s)he was better than others, just that (s)he doesn’t feel the sense of commonality with respect to life stage that’s necessary for most friendships.</p>
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<p>At certain moments in life, yes, definitely. But then there’re also those other times when I felt less mature than my peers. What’s the most scary is when you start to feel more mature than your parents when dealing with certain things---- that’s when you know that childhood is starting to slip away and you really begin to feel old :o.</p>
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<p>Ugh, so true. :(</p>
<p>And it’s even worse when you’re in that awkward stage of life where you can’t say “Ma, you’re wrong!”</p>
<p>Damn. in high school I am the most dumb, most immature kid who could find no way to get rid of the ‘im-’.</p>
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<p>lol, i knooow. i’m just starting to be able to tell my mom she’s wrong. nowhere close to being able to tell my dad.</p>
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<p>I don’t mean that the OP must be in a “baby stage of maturity.” I mean the OP must be young.</p>
<p>I look at my fellow rising seniors and I don’t see myself as more “grown up” than them. Not because I’m not more responsible or more dedicated. I might very well be.</p>
<p>But at this point, these people are almost done growing up. They’re showing their true colors. If they don’t know how to manage their finances at age 21+; if they haven’t collected their thoughts and considered where they’re going; if they have no substance today–this is probably who they are. </p>
<p>You need to be a certain age to think you’re more mature than your age peers. After a while, you realize some people are just different. Discipline, responsibility, morality, and the importance of certain values are largely a function of socioeconomic status, race, culture, etc. They are only a function of age when you’re very young.</p>
<p>That’s not to say people don’t change with time. I bet they do. But you wouldn’t expect these changes to correlate with the changes occurring in people around you–unless, as I said, you’re young.</p>
<p>…I didn’t see that I was in HSL until just now.</p>
<p>Sorry for the confusion. When I was in HS, I also thought I was more mature than peers. I think this is perfectly natural.</p>
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<p>I see now. When you’re in college or the working world than there’s the expectation that you’ll be around people who are truly colleagues–and if not, you can find some. In high school, however, you’ve always been told that you’re supposed to be like everyone else and realizing how different you are is part of breaking away from this construct. That’s why you thought it was odd for someone to be noticing how behind everyone else was.</p>
<p>Yeah, when I was in the 3rd-8th grade. Now I sometimes think that the opposite is true.</p>
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<p>Haha, I tell my mom that she’s wrong all the time, even when I was much younger. Here’s the strange part: when I argue with my parents about things, I don’t necessarily feel older, but when I do feel older/more mature, I don’t necessarily feel like pointing out the existence of possible fallacy in their logic or the impracticality of their action anymore. Thankfully this only happens very rarely— I think I prefer to keep my childhood and my more simple view of the world a little longer.</p>
<p>Yeah, sometimes I feel like that because the kids at my school act like they are so immature. They do stuff like joke around at stupid stuff and laugh at the slightest things. I think it gets on my nerves sometimes… you know</p>
<p>Maturity is subjective. I’ve never held a paying job. Many of my peers have held one, yet I don’t feel more or less “mature” than them. There are many roads you can go by. </p>
<p>I recognize my grades and reserved personality as being conducive to achieving success in the path I’m headed down. But intelligence and conservatism (in the lifestyle, not political sense) are not on the same continuum as “maturity” as I see it.</p>
<p>Maturity, to me, means owning a philosophy, having a plan, finding a goal, and taking on the responsibilities necessary to achieve that goal. It’s not to say that some people can’t be further along in their goals than others, but it’s to say that people don’t always go through the same “stages” of maturity.</p>
<p>Why would it be a sign of maturity for someone who doesn’t want the fruits of a long-lasting, monogamous relationship to spend time on one?</p>
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<p>awesome quote :)</p>
<p>I feel the same way. I’ve always been on the mature side socially. But I just roll with the punches and try to focus on what I do have in common with my peers. I’ve found a good friend who is also more mature. Soon, you’ll be in College, and it will be a whole new world! :)</p>
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<p>WAY YES. WAYYYYYYYYYYYY YES.</p>
<p>I think I felt more mature when i was young, but I didn’t really know how I felt about that (e.g whether it was a bad or good thing).</p>
<p>A lot of my friends are pretty immature… I don’t mind though. It’s pretty entertaining. I do, however, also have some mature friends. </p>
<p>I find that it’s nice to have a balance and a variety of people I hang out with. I prefer to hang out with my more immature friends when I’m stressed.</p>
<p>Yes yes, I very much agree with this original poster. I feel the exact same way, but I would not regard myself as being more “mature”. I feel like the culture around me is disgusting more or less due to the immaturity.</p>
<p>What truly defines maturity, in my opinion, is being able to decide who you really are and sticking to it. Prove me wrong if anyone would like, but there are too many “fake” people in my school and it disgusts me to see this to this very day. The other disgusting part is how these people are doing well, and due to them being leader of some “Ultimate frisbee club” or “Fat Tire Club”, they are popular. </p>
<p>Thanks for this post for allowing myself to portray my feelings towards high school.</p>
<p>lol your obvious visceral disgust with those things sort of amuses me. Parts of me greatly identify with what you wrote. It’s interesting to see it expressed so blatantly.</p>
<p>And, like, the way you ended your post, it was as if you had seriously purged yourself of those pent-up venomous feelings.</p>