<p>I have a gf from back home. I like her and care about her a lot. We've been together for almost three years. But then if I see cute girls, I want to flirt with them. Not because I actually want them as a gf, but because its fun. Us guys have to see if we still have "game." So far I haven't flirted with any girls, but am I a bad person?</p>
<p>Yes you are a bad, immoral person. </p>
<p>Go do something godly in your free time.</p>
<p>Whether you perceive it to be immoral really depends on your values. I would consider it cheating though.</p>
<p>Rule of thumb: if you have to question it, you probably shouldn't do it.</p>
<p>thats not gooood</p>
<p>eh, i dunno dude, it might be something to talk about with your gf because for all you know she's flirting with other guys (no offense or anything). i don't think it's really that bad as long as your gf wouldn't get too mad about it. when you think about it, it might actually be healthy for your relationship if you both flirted a little with other people.</p>
<p>I have a bf, and I do want to flirt occasionally. I don't though, cause I know my bf would hate that. :) Just wanna let you know you're not alone tho.</p>
<p>Theres a big difference between being sociable and flirting. If you are someone who gets along with people and is very sociable and it seems like you are flirting but really arent, then thats fine. But deliberately going to other girls wtih the intention to arouse interest is something I'd advise against because the other person you flirted with may pursue things and you dont want to be put in a position where you do something inadvertently and waste a relationship. </p>
<p>Its human nature to want to flirt and see if we can get someone and gravitate towards someone who is good looking but really being in a relationship, especially a long distance one, is about self control.</p>
<p>either A: Break up. or B: stop flirting. I am a guy, and that is not what I do.</p>
<p>Crash_Blair and flong know what I'm talkin' 'bout. Seeing a good looking person of the opposite sex makes a person want to chat it up.</p>
<p>Don't do it man. I'm sure you would feel like **** if you found out that your girl was flirting with other guys.</p>
<p>why don't u channel that impulse to "chat it up" to more productive means like poetry or writing??</p>
<p>Well, its not wrong, but its not a great idea either. I was kinda the victim of this type of thing. I'm single and flirted with this girl at work, and she flirted back all the time. We hung out and everything, and it was completely obvious that we liked each other. I knew she had a boyfriend, but she never mentioned him or even said she had one. She had no intention of leaving her bf for me, but she kinda got me to think she might. You can flirt, but before you get very far, you MUST tell the person that you have a gf and that you are unavailable right now, so that they don't get hurt. I might get lucky because the girl I'm talking about has a really horrible boyfriend and might be dumping him soon. But be careful when playing with people, you just might play with their heart.</p>
<p>I'd say go ahead and flirt. At the right time, tell the person you have a gf, but don't be presumptuous and do it the minute you start flirting with someone. Flirting can make you feel better.</p>
<p>Go for it. You're a manwhore if you cross a line of physicality. You're a jerk if you toy seriously with another's heart. Otherwise, you're just a flirt.</p>
<p>BedHead, are you a parent? If so, please indicate it when posting on College Life threads.</p>
<p>And now, to the OP: It's normal to want to flirt. However, you absolutely must not do it if you truly care about the relationship. If you don't care, break up first and then flirt all you want when you're single.</p>
<p>Or... be in a relationship with someone who also flirts with other people and/or approves of your flirting with other people.</p>
<p>i know this girl that has a bf that flirts all the time.</p>
<p>orlyyyyyyyyyy</p>
<p>Depends on what flirting is for you. </p>
<p>A lot of folks I know are very touchy-feely when they flirt...and that's definitely not ok. But...if it's just kidding around, truly doesn't mean anything and has no chance of leading to more than flirting, then I really don't think it matters all that much. </p>
<p>I dunno, though, since it looks like everyone else is dead-set against it?</p>
<p>Yeah, I'd say you are trying to test the waters to boost your own ego. It's one thing to be a sociable, friendly person. But if the only people you really care about socializing with are hot girls...you're a horndog, not sociable.</p>