<p>Flirting can be healthy, especially at a young age. That said, you should be careful. I am of the view that intentional lust is morally equal to actual infidelity. In other words, hoping to cheat is just as wrong as cheating. All things considered (love, respect, communication, etc.) it does the same amount of damage to a relationship.</p>
<p>hmm... i guess you could flirt a little.. perhaps.... but DO NOT go too far</p>
<p>or if your getting tired of your gf just break up with her ...</p>
<p>I can see where you're coming from, however, I recommend as someone who's been in a relationship with a chronic flirter not to flirt. It can lead to sticky situations where you end up with a girl who's attracted to you who's not your girlfriend or make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable and question your loyalty to her.</p>
<p>Don't keep this girl around on a string so she'll be there to come back to whenever you decide to stop flirting and/or when you get shot down.</p>
<p>Flirting can be especially dangerous if it's with someone you see frequently/are good friends with. It's one thing to be approached by someone in a bar and flirt back when you have no chance or intention of meeting them again. It's another thing to have close friends and maintain flirtatious relationships with them.</p>
<p>I don't know that I'd all it "immoral", but if you really care about your girlfriend, try to avoid flirting. Not only is it misleading, but it gives people the impression that you aren't fully committed to your relationship, which tends to blur boundaries of acceptable/unacceptable behavior. It's also not very nice to do to her - actions speak louder than words.</p>
<p>go ahead and flirt. if you don't cross the boundary of becoming physical with someone else, and it's all in good innocent fun, no one gets hurt</p>
<p>Don;t hold back from your inner feelings! Restricting your emotions makes you inhuman. Humanity exists not with machines or restricted outer shells, but within all of the precious feelings in our hearts!</p>
<p>i really don't see the good in flirting. it devalues u.</p>
<p>That's because you've studied logic too long and became a shell of your former self. You have become a machine incapable of the emotions that make you human! Flirting is....an expression of the creative feelings of the soul, the emotions that god wanted us to have when he gave us the option, to eat or not to eat the apple.</p>
<p>That's because you've studied logic too long and became a shell of your former self. You have become a machine incapable of the emotions that make you human! Flirting is....an expression of the creative feelings of the soul, the emotions that god wanted us to have when he gave us the option, to eat or not to eat the apple.</p>
<p>Ummm, so express the creative feelings of the soul without a girlfriend?</p>
<p>sauronvoldemort, you have FIVE accounts now? Wow.</p>
<p>It's all right if u flirt and maintain your game as long as you don't get physically involved</p>
<p>^^
Thats what I think too :p. Dunno why some of these ppl suggesting that you should banning flirting all togther when you have a gf. Its not like you are married to this girl, plus if you break up...you want to have some options. Sometimes its just fun playing the game plus its innocent. </p>
<p>Just dont take to the next level physically or sexually. But if you are flirting so that you can cheat, then its wrong.</p>
<p>But for me, I just dont flirt as much as I use to when Im in a relationship. Doesnt matter who much I flirt that day, Im still thinking about my girl at the end of the day (sounds corny sorta..)</p>
<p>you're horrible</p>
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<p>Why don't you flirt as much with other people when you're in a relationship? Do you subconsciously believe it's bad to do so, since you're limiting this behavior? If so, you are contradicting yourself.</p>
<p>^^
Dam I sense some tension here. All I am doing is expressing my opinions on this subject of discussion. If you don't agree with it, then its not my problem.</p>
<p>But to answer your question 'tisthetruth,
I flirt for only two reason:
1. To try to get a date or gf<a href="reasonable%20right?">/U</a>
2. To have alil innocent fun or be playful<a href="For%20me,%20flirting%20is%20harmless%20unless%20you%20elevate%20it%20to%20sexually%20or%20physically%20level.%20And%20by%20flirting,%20I%20mean%20teasing/%20playfully%20name-calling%20or%20hitting/giving%20out%20compliments.%20Its%20just%20being%20playful.">/U</a></p>
<p>So by my method, there are two levels of flirting (shown above): a GF/dating one and a "harmless" fun one.</p>
<p>Now lets say I got a gf, I can cross out the "trying to get a date" approach to other girls, but I still retain my harmless fun one. I won't stop giving out compliments to girls or teasing to my friends, who are girls, just because I am in a relationship. But because I have a gf, I won't use the other level of flirting (gf one) on other girls. Just the harmless one.</p>
<p>Therefore, I wont flirt as much or as aggressively. The "Gf/date" is gone on other girls. I just do alil harmless fun to other girls, but I'm not trying to make them like me. Plus I treat my girl differently than any other girls because my "Gf flirt" is more touching and stuff. </p>
<p>To answer your question 'tisthetruth, yeah certain type of flirting is only for your girl, but harmless flirting shouldn't be ban all together. And I do lessen my flirting abilities because I am in a relationship and not trying to get a new Gf or date. </p>
<p>But are you telling me that you shouldn't flirt at all because you got a girl? That doesn't make sense to me. Because there is a certain level trust in my relationship and I would never cross that line. Plus its in my personality to be playful and fun.</p>
<p>Now if you using flirting to get new girls, then its wrong. I have been saying that all along. But I believe "harmless" flirting is just harmless.</p>
<p>Now If you are willing to argue with me on my points, go ahead. I'm willing to listen and change if I agree with you :p.</p>
<p>Yeah that was long but whatever..</p>
<p>OK, so you simply switched to the other type of flirting (type 2) when you're in a relationship? Overall, the intensity of your flirting is reduced (the automatic result of eliminating type 1 flirting-- presuming that you've been doing both). But do you limit your type 2 flirting as well? Would you do the type 2 flirting with other girls in front of your girlfriend? How exactly is "harmless flirting" different from "I want you" flirting?</p>
<p>Btw, there was no tension at all. I was just curious.</p>
<p>if you are ok with your gf doing the exact same thing, than go ahead.</p>
<p>Heh, "type 1", "type 2", sounds like you guys are talking about diabetes.</p>
<p>My bad about the misunderstanding 'tisthetruth, i guess I was in a hurry that day and didnt read your post well :p</p>
<p>Its kinda hard to understand your questions since you use all that type 1 and type 2. but I think I know what you are trying to say.. (correct me if Im wrong :))</p>
<p>Ok I don't know where to start but...</p>
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<li>"Harmless" flirting vs. "I want you" flirting</li>
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<p>I thought somebody here is going to answer that for me since there are lot of dudes here but instead we get a post about diabetes :p... I think there are alot of views on this post but whatever.</p>
<p>Are you a girl, 'tisthetruth? Cuz I think alot of guys know the differences between the two or maybe some ppl just flirt differently than I do.. I guess the latter is it.</p>
<p>-First "Harmless" Flirting is being playful around a girl or just having some innocent fun. Its like teasing or playfully making fun of each other. It involves touching but not intense i guess. You are just having fun and laughing. Just imagine the typical guys hanging out with their friends who are girls (I think thats best example at least for me) I mean you dont see the same interactions between guys with their guys friends.</p>
<p>-Second, "I want you" Flirting is whole another level. Your whole body language is just telling the girl that you want her and you want to date her. Some guys are shy though but others are aggressive. For me, it usually involves a different kind of attention toward the girl..like physical- holding hands, rubbing the girl's thigh, arm around her shoulder, or saying stuff sexually or physically or holding her face. But I only do this to girls that I'm really interested in when I first meet them. Look I don't this to every girl, and my friends go even more aggressively than I :(. For me I have few gf. I find dating or getting a date is easy, but finding that right girl and wanting to be with her are very difficult. Also, "I want you" flirting is like 85% body language, and your conversation with her could be completely meaningless but just don't say something stupid. finally, Its like telling the girl you "want her"</p>
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<li>Do I limit my type 2 or harmless flirting when I have a gf? </li>
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<p>-by Type 2 i guess you mean "harmless flirting".. So my answer is no :p. "Harmless" is just harmless. like you said, I just eliminate my type 1 to other girls.</p>
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<li>Do I do type 2 (harmless) in front of my girl? </li>
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<p>-To me, Trust is the number one thing in a relationship. All my gfs know that I am trustworthy and would never dare to cheat on them. Plus they know from my reputation that I'm a playful dude and trust is key for me. So yeah I do it in front of my girl. They don't really care, but I bet at times it bothers them alil bit. It never elevates to a fight though. They just know thatbeing my playful is my personality. Oh yeah, I look for the same quality in a girl too plus I just don't jump into relationship.</p>
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<li>To that dude who posted after 'tisthetruth..</li>
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<p>-I trust my girl so its not a prob. Plus I try to find a girl who believes the same thing.</p>
<p>Thats all from me on your questions tis, and sorry about the misunderstanding... i am not an expert on flirting so if you keep asking questions cuz you are curious, then i dunno. But you just have to find the type of flirting that fits you. For me, its alil aggressive i guess. </p>
<p>Oh yeah, Confidence and Humor are key when you are trying to attract a girl.</p>
<p>Finally, if you are flirting so that you can cheat or find a new gf, then Its Wrong. </p>
<p>That was long too. I guess I'm just bored this morning :p</p>