<p>@Wladimir What does people caring about me have to do with be caring about others? I want to volunteer because I actually want to do some good in the world. If everyone thought about the world like you do, things would be a lot worse. And you must be a very sad, unpleasant person.</p>
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<p>that’s only because you, subconsciously, have the “if I scratch your back hopefully you’ll scratch mine” mentality ingrained. Consciously you might want to help people, but only for eventual personal gain.</p>
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<p>See above. You mad that I see the world for what it is?</p>
<p>^^ while that may be true for some people, it is not true for the majority of volunteers. Personally, the only reward I’d want from volunteering is the knowledge that I made someone’s life better (and yes I know that sounds corny)</p>
<p>@Wladimir</p>
<p>Welcome to life.</p>
<p>I come from a neighborhood full of drugs, prostitution,crime etc.I see junkies on my block everyday. I grew up in a two parent household. My parents are from another country (a third world country) and have always push my 2 brothers and I to work hard. I guess thats why am so interested in helping others, cause I see how opportunities are limited in their country. O and yes am a minority.</p>
<p>BTW I will never be a product of my environment case close.</p>
<p>^^^ No. I’ve realized by now that a lot of care/love/____ for other people is generally not returned, through personal experience ;). But there are other possible benefits…friends, fulfilling life, etc. </p>
<p>I don’t see anything wrong in caring/loving/giving a ____ about someone without personal gain. I actually think it would make me a stronger person, emotionally.</p>
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<p>It’s true for all volunteers. People are selfish by nature. </p>
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<p>Are you a girl or a guy? I always liked kelly for a girl but not for a guy.</p>
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<p>There’s no such thing as helping someone if not for personal gain. That’d contradict evolutionary psychology altogether. People who want to help others are actually very weak because they need to rely on others (by forming relationships where people rely on each other) instead of relying on themselves.</p>
<p>Am a girl.</p>
<p>Wladimir, hush. </p>
<p>thx</p>
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<p>a minority with parents from a 3rd world country with the name kelly? is your real name xiao xing?</p>
<p>@ multicultural I approve of that statement, but I just want to know one thing,</p>
<p>Wladimir, what do you think persons in peace corps, or doctors without borders, or just volunteers in general expect in return? Because I honestly see no benefits for the volunteers besides a feeling of well being…</p>
<p>and wow, “a minority with parents from a 3rd world country with the name kelly? is your real name xiao xing?” your ignorance is showing…</p>
<p>That isn’t ignorant. I’m just curious.</p>
<p>And by your above post you clearly don’t understand what I’ve been saying. I’m saying that the desire to be altruistic might be a conscious thought but it’s motivated by subconscious desire to be liked and have people return favours. Therefore they don’t consciously expect anything in return; other than probably feeding their egos with a sense of righteousness and gaining the approval of their peers.</p>
<p>@Wladimir</p>
<p>Are you serious???</p>
<p>What is that suppose to mean???</p>
<p>BTW no</p>
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<p>i’m just saying that kelly isn’t a minority sounding name. it’s a white name. I mean so is wladimir, but it’s at least a foreign name. What 3rd world country did your parents come from?</p>
<p>“There’s no such thing as helping someone if not for personal gain. That’d contradict evolutionary psychology altogether. People who want to help others are actually very weak because they need to rely on others (by forming relationships where people rely on each other) instead of relying on themselves.” (dunno how to do the fancy quotes)</p>
<p>Then I’ll just have to do the impossible, or get as close as I can.</p>
<p>I’ll start by saying that I give a **** about you, Wladimir :), and I wonder about your negative (even if realistic) perceptions. I don’t think I’ll be gaining anything except a response intended to knock the naivety out of me. :p</p>
<p>You only care about me because you want something :(</p>
<p>No but seriously, that’s how I honestly view people. That’s why I value my family so much; because I know that the relationships are genuine. I’m not trying to convince any of you guys. Think whatever you want.</p>
<p>The end-times are near. I actually agree with multicultural on something.</p>
<p>@Wladimir</p>
<p>You got a point but I have two first names(no am not going to share the other one).</p>
<p>Trinidad and Tobago</p>
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<p>First off, personally speaking, its not done to be liked. The person who I’m helping could hate my guts and I would still do my damndest to take care of them.</p>
<p>And yes it is true that humans do things because they feel good, but I believe that just the simple fact that volunteering feels good to some people rather than a chore attests to the good in human nature.</p>
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<p>Like I said, you have a lot of growing up to do ;)</p>
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<p>well the other one is obviously shaniqua. jk</p>
<p>@kelly, side-note, I’m from the Bahamas :)</p>